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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 11:56am

NO nice guys on the horizon at the moment...Mr. Friendly suddenly hasn't called, so I must assume he's "NTIM"...


a couple of men lurking around who would be great for diversion only...very tempting. But that's not what I want...is it?


West? Kick me in the butt, ok? LOL

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Registered: 04-08-2003
In reply to: cl_revenoc
Sat, 03-12-2005 - 6:47am

Candi, I believe, because I myself am guilty of doing this on the board sometimes. I have been snitty with you in the past, that it doesn't mean I don't care about you, in the contrary, sometimes I think we hurt those that we love or care about because we are having a bad day and who better to bite one's head off, but those that we are close to. LOL.

Apology accepted. Thank you. I didn't mean to be a weenie or hurt you in anyway.

Huggies,

Catherine

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Registered: 05-25-2004
In reply to: cl_revenoc
Sat, 03-12-2005 - 7:26am

I think this is okay, Cat. You are having fun and can handle it and you feel this is right for you in your life right now - and I really don't blame you after all you have been through and especially with all you have to deal with over there. And it is great for us to hear your perspective from someone who can do that.

This is the first time for me that I have been dateless for so long since I was 14 - 2 years now - and I have really come to grips with it and used the time well to develop me. I am also trying to enjoy my freedom as best as I can before I lose it. LOL!!!

I think I realized that a few months ago when I changed the color of the paint on the whole inside of the house - just like that - I didn't have to ask anyone else. One day it was beige and the next day gold. That was HUGE to me. I was able to give away all of the small counter appliances to a local charity and buy all new black ones from ebay. And I bought an expensive knife set I have always wanted from ebay. No explanations or begging or bargaining. Done. :-)

And now I am booking a trip to Denmark AND I am taking my son and the babysitter. I am going to have to make some sacrifices to afford it. But I don't have to ask anyone for permission for any of this. The babysitter will love such a trip and it will be a vacation for all of us.

My son and I had the most wonderful time last night. I took him to a new sports bar/restaurant here in our town. They had big screen TVs with soccer games, basketball games, etc. And we had the most wonderful time. We played hangman while we waited for our dinner. And in little kid style I had to take him to the bathroom in the middle of our meal. I ordered dessert with him. And when we got home we talked about our trip to Denmark. He had the most amazing questions. And talked about learning Danish together. We also get to be in a parade for the American team (I am on the American triathlon team.) And he will get a uniform shirt, get to carry a flag and throw candies to the Danish children.

I believe that God has ordered celibacy and singledom for me now for a reason. I also believe that I won't be single for the rest of my life. I just saw a friend who was divorced for 14 years find the love of her life who is THAT into her. She is older, not that pretty and has a crabby personality. So if she can find one, any of us can find one. Also, I have seen women who are married for the second time usually take 4-8 years to do this. So I am okay with it.

Life is a journey - we have to enjoy the ride.

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