Born on the Fourth of July.......

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Born on the Fourth of July.......
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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 10:02am

Here is a two day update.........
July 3rd:
Since I'm so HEART BROKEN, I've decided to get back to OLD. I signed up for American Singles and Match.com.
Well, I was updating my profile a little bit (I hope it doesn't sound too awful now), but as I was doing so, this guy emails me. I read his profile: 34, divorced, no children,
8th grade teacher for social studies/history (works in the ghetto district for difficult children- so his profile states a high tolerance for patience) and does the sports highlights for ESPN. Works out, but not too much, drinks socially, cute pic. Sooo, I respond. He responds back and this continues back and forth a little. Then he said, he doesn't know me at all and I don't know him, but he was born on the Fourth of July and his friends are having a big party tonight and tomorrow for him; if I would like to just get out and meet lots of people and have some fun.

I had another party to go to first, so I told him I would let him know when it was over and then I would contact him. Around 9:30om he contacted me and wanted to know if I was still going to join him. I told him I had to rush home first and I will contact him before I leave the apartment. I was really burnt from the beach last weekend and my face was starting to peel. LOL. Not very attractive. Oh well. I decided to take a quick shower, put cream on my face, a little eyeliner and mascara and then my favorite jeans and a cute tshirt. I think I looked really cute and I was able to get a very positive reaction out of him when I ended up meeting him downtown around 11pm.

The funny thing is, I didn't recognize him from his photos. I had to text him that I was their, but where was he? Anyway, we finally did connect and he's cute. Like teddy bear cute. The real teacher kind of type. His friends, who are ALL knock out gorgeous, introduced themselves. WOW! that is all I could say! But Mr. History (his new nickname) is pretty cute himself, just a little pale compared to his buddies. Not meant to be mean, but that he is. They were all so very very nice. Great crowd. I met friends of his from everywhere and that made me already realize how popular he is. Like I usually meet or date guys that are loners. They talk about ALL their friends, but the reality is, they have none. Mr. History must have had over 40 people in that bar to see just him.

Anyway, we ended the evening and he asked if I would join him at his friends lake house for his big party and 4th of July bash the next day. So I said sure.

4th of July:
I was in bed still at 10am when the phone rang, it was Mr. History. Asking if I slept well and that he really appreciated me coming out to see him. He apologized if he seemed a bit intoxicated and I told him he was the perfect gentleman (he's a little shy with me). He asked if I had changed my mind about the Lake Party of if I was still going to come, because he would love to see me. I said yes, I would be their, but I had things to do first (I didn't have anything that I couldn't have done another time though). His party started at 2pm, I told him that I would drop by later. I took my sweet time. The night before his party started at 8:30 and I showed at 11pm. In no rush...
I picked out another cute outfit that was very laid back and my swimsuit underneath, just in case. I met him at the lake and saw his friends from the night before. Mr. History and I just talked and talked and mingled. It was really nice. More and more friends were showing up and their were quite a bit of new people again that I didn't meet from the day before. They all brought him fireworks. We BBQ'd, ate, talked and then got the fireworks ready. It was so fun. We sat on the dock (very romantic) watching the firecrackers across the lake and he held my hand. Very sweet. He asked if I had plans today. I said, I'm sorry I do (but really I don't) and that I was going to the beach over the weekend. He asked when. I said I wasn't sure if I was going Friday or Saturday. He said "How can I talk you into going on Saturday, so I can ask you out for Friday night?" So I told him that if he put it that way, I would like to be his date for Friday night. (I told him no about tonight because I don't want to see him everyday. I saw him twice in a row, I think a break for a day is good. I'll see him Friday night and then have a break Saturday and Sunday. I also want to keep options open to date others. I don't want to go exclusive right away. I want to wait and see.)

I asked him if he ever dated a single mom, he said no. I said why me then. He said several things regarding why. I tried to give him examples and scenarios of how different a single mom can be and then he said, "And what's the big deal anyway? You have only 2, but I have 160 and we have the entire summer without them." LOL.

Sooo that was the evening. I said good-bye to him (no, no kissing, you know I don't do that), but he planted one on top of my head and later when I got home, he wanted me to text him that I made it safely. I did that and he wrote back that he is looking forward to seeing me Friday.

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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 10:42am

He sounds like a really super sweet guy. The fact that he has boat loads of friends bodes very very well for the guy as well. I think that is a fabulous testament to his character. Clearly people love this guy.

I think you were wise to be "busy" tonight as you do not want too much too soon and the men seem to be falling harder and faster than the ladies do.

I can't wait to hear more abiut this one...once again ...you are off to the races!

Rose

Rosecolouredspecs
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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 10:49am

"And what's the big deal anyway? You have only 2, but I have 160 and we have the entire summer without them." LOL.

COOL!! This one sounds nice and into you!! Good luck and keep us posted!

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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 11:00am

Yay that he seems to be a great man! I do have to "be Mom" here and say that I hope you aren't 'into' him as a rebound thing from M. Because even you said at the beginning of your post that you got into OLD because you were still heartbroken (unless you meant it with sarcasm and I missed the message)... but I do know you DID like M quite a bit, despite the gut telling you some things weren't quite right.

That aside, I do hope that things continue to go well with Mr. History though! He surely sounds promising!

~shrimpy

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 11:12am

It was out of sarcasm. :)

Yes I did like M quite a bit, but too many differences and things I didn't like about him for quite some time. I knew I didn't have the same feelings for him as he supposidly did for me, but M knew that.

Again, I wasn't upset about the break up, because I tried to do that last week. I was just disappointed that we couldn't remain friends or end things in nice terms. I thought he was nice (until this week), I just didn't think he was for me.

Sooo, no; no heartache.

I am also not going to go into this full swing. I spent two days with him around only his friends. I need a break today and tomorrow we'll have our first one on one. After that, I am going to escape for a few days on the beach and possibly have the cell phone turned off at all times. Contact him again on Sunday night; if I missed his call. And continue dating other people that I think I have a match with.

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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 12:18pm

Good for you! Keep your options wide open, take it super slow and you should be just fine.
LOL, about the 160 kids though, good one. Just remind him that yours don't go home at 3:00pm :-)

I still can't belive you go on old one day and get an invite to a party! I just revamped my profile 2 weeks ago and have yet to get one email.

The T Girl
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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 4:25pm
Wow that's amazing that you went back on OLD and found such a good potential sooooooo quickly!! Sounds like he's a lot of fun.
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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 5:18pm

Wellll, so far he seems nice, but we'll see. He's never dated a woman with children before and even though he does teach a bunch of teenagers, we'll see how things progress. I am learning not to hold my breath and I am definitely not just going to focus on him.

He does seem into me at the moment. Very attentive and nice. He knows I love history, which is great because he is a social studies teacher. Soooooo, he wrote me an email this afternoon saying he put thought into where to take me for dinner tomorrow night. It'll be an old Southern Plantation home. AWESOME!!! I'm totally excited. I think that will be so NEAT!

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 9:38am

Have you had someone else look at your profile yet? Wording is a very important factor. You have to be sure not to come across too independent, too clingy, too into your own things, where you might not have time. It's really a balance thing. Like one of the things I have written in mine is:

I have a lot of things going on in my life where my time is limited, but I will make time for you and I expect you to make time for me as well.

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Registered: 09-26-2005
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:47pm

My profile is very well written, but it really dosen't matter that much as men
have repeatedly addmitted they won't read the profile unless they like the pictures.
I have 5 really good pictures on mine.
Men are superficial, visual creatures, and it's looks that they care about first. In my case since I'm overweight and middle aged the odds are against me. NY'ers are very
superficial for the most part (more men than women).

Read the POF forums, almost 95% of the men have opinions that are down right hostile towards overweight women, and just about everyday there is a thread bashing overweight women.

I love myself and my curves as is, I wouldn't loose an ounce to attract a man. Not to mention loose my plus size modeling jobs.

It's their loss.

The T Girl
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:51pm
I agree! I also get rude comments from people towards me, because I am so thin, they think I'm anorexic. I love to eat, it's just in my genes. I would love to gain some weight in the right areas, but it doesn't happen. However, I get sick of people being so nasty towards me. I'm not trying to look like twiggy. It's just how God made me. I also didn't ask to not have boobs, but it is the way it is and I like myself.

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