Born on the Fourth of July.......
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| Thu, 07-05-2007 - 10:02am |
Here is a two day update.........
July 3rd:
Since I'm so HEART BROKEN, I've decided to get back to OLD. I signed up for American Singles and Match.com.
Well, I was updating my profile a little bit (I hope it doesn't sound too awful now), but as I was doing so, this guy emails me. I read his profile: 34, divorced, no children,
8th grade teacher for social studies/history (works in the ghetto district for difficult children- so his profile states a high tolerance for patience) and does the sports highlights for ESPN. Works out, but not too much, drinks socially, cute pic. Sooo, I respond. He responds back and this continues back and forth a little. Then he said, he doesn't know me at all and I don't know him, but he was born on the Fourth of July and his friends are having a big party tonight and tomorrow for him; if I would like to just get out and meet lots of people and have some fun.
I had another party to go to first, so I told him I would let him know when it was over and then I would contact him. Around 9:30om he contacted me and wanted to know if I was still going to join him. I told him I had to rush home first and I will contact him before I leave the apartment. I was really burnt from the beach last weekend and my face was starting to peel. LOL. Not very attractive. Oh well. I decided to take a quick shower, put cream on my face, a little eyeliner and mascara and then my favorite jeans and a cute tshirt. I think I looked really cute and I was able to get a very positive reaction out of him when I ended up meeting him downtown around 11pm.
The funny thing is, I didn't recognize him from his photos. I had to text him that I was their, but where was he? Anyway, we finally did connect and he's cute. Like teddy bear cute. The real teacher kind of type. His friends, who are ALL knock out gorgeous, introduced themselves. WOW! that is all I could say! But Mr. History (his new nickname) is pretty cute himself, just a little pale compared to his buddies. Not meant to be mean, but that he is. They were all so very very nice. Great crowd. I met friends of his from everywhere and that made me already realize how popular he is. Like I usually meet or date guys that are loners. They talk about ALL their friends, but the reality is, they have none. Mr. History must have had over 40 people in that bar to see just him.
Anyway, we ended the evening and he asked if I would join him at his friends lake house for his big party and 4th of July bash the next day. So I said sure.
4th of July:
I was in bed still at 10am when the phone rang, it was Mr. History. Asking if I slept well and that he really appreciated me coming out to see him. He apologized if he seemed a bit intoxicated and I told him he was the perfect gentleman (he's a little shy with me). He asked if I had changed my mind about the Lake Party of if I was still going to come, because he would love to see me. I said yes, I would be their, but I had things to do first (I didn't have anything that I couldn't have done another time though). His party started at 2pm, I told him that I would drop by later. I took my sweet time. The night before his party started at 8:30 and I showed at 11pm. In no rush...
I picked out another cute outfit that was very laid back and my swimsuit underneath, just in case. I met him at the lake and saw his friends from the night before. Mr. History and I just talked and talked and mingled. It was really nice. More and more friends were showing up and their were quite a bit of new people again that I didn't meet from the day before. They all brought him fireworks. We BBQ'd, ate, talked and then got the fireworks ready. It was so fun. We sat on the dock (very romantic) watching the firecrackers across the lake and he held my hand. Very sweet. He asked if I had plans today. I said, I'm sorry I do (but really I don't) and that I was going to the beach over the weekend. He asked when. I said I wasn't sure if I was going Friday or Saturday. He said "How can I talk you into going on Saturday, so I can ask you out for Friday night?" So I told him that if he put it that way, I would like to be his date for Friday night. (I told him no about tonight because I don't want to see him everyday. I saw him twice in a row, I think a break for a day is good. I'll see him Friday night and then have a break Saturday and Sunday. I also want to keep options open to date others. I don't want to go exclusive right away. I want to wait and see.)
I asked him if he ever dated a single mom, he said no. I said why me then. He said several things regarding why. I tried to give him examples and scenarios of how different a single mom can be and then he said, "And what's the big deal anyway? You have only 2, but I have 160 and we have the entire summer without them." LOL.
Sooo that was the evening. I said good-bye to him (no, no kissing, you know I don't do that), but he planted one on top of my head and later when I got home, he wanted me to text him that I made it safely. I did that and he wrote back that he is looking forward to seeing me Friday.

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Discrimination swings both ways unfortunately.
That is SO SO true.
Or here is the thing - they want a women who "looks in shape" but they freak when they find out how much exercise it takes to be in that kind of . And they want long weekends away or time spent on a boat all day. To be fit after 35 takes a big effort in my opinion and it is a lifestyle.
I never did any of the exercise I do now to look good - I do it because it makes me feel good and because I enjoy the mental challenge of training and racing. The looks are the side effects so to speak. I desire the fit lifestyle more than anything and that is what I seek for an SO.
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