Broaching the dating subject with dd ...

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Broaching the dating subject with dd ...
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Wed, 11-08-2006 - 4:17pm

Where is the "EeeeeK!" icon? lol


I met with dd's counselor yesterday b/c I MUST let her know i am dating. If she ever heard it from someone else ... she would lose so much trust in me.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 11-09-2006 - 11:28am

lol - well .. this "neighbor" - its just a weird thing. (i am gonna sound like a big old slut here ... so be prepared! lol)


I am 38, he is 51. (***OLD*** for me! lol)

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 11-09-2006 - 1:45pm

OH no - well the details do certainly make a difference. No - he doesn't sound like relationship material.

NEXT!! :-)

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 9:27am
I was matter-of-fact with my son when I told him I was dating. He hasn't expressed any disappointment. Maybe it's different with daughters.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 11:43pm

Nah, I don't think it's different with daughters.

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 8:11am

I agree. I have not been in a relationship with my childrens' other parent since they can remember. So, I've basically been dating for most of their lives. That's all they know, but I have also told them many different things are dates.

In our family, anything special is a date. I go on dates with them, with my girlfriends, with men, sure, but they don't neccessarily know who I am going with when I say I have a date. It's just the way it's always been, and I'm not sure I even did it on purpose, but it works well for us, since they don't get bent out of shape, and I don't feel guilty for lying to them.

Moody- whose children think dates are simply fun things you do with someone else


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Registered: 06-30-2003
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 12:29pm

My exh is like that too. That's why I avoided dating for 4 years after we separated and I never introduced one boyfriend to my son, just so my ex wouldn't find out about it. When I seriously started dating my current SO, I seriously didn't care if my exh found out about it :) I introduced him to my son after 7 months of dating.

It was a rocky road. As soon as my exh found out about it, he took me to court to re-visit vistation issues (i spent big money in legal fees...again). He didn't "win" anything in court. He was mad at me for several months after the court thing. I'm sure he's over it now and things have settled back into a routine. He's not taking pictures of my boyfriend's truck, etc.... or harrassing my son with questions.

Unless the exh is stalker dangerous, they do come to terms with it when you stop living in fear. (my exh is as crazy/paranoid as a person can get without being a real danger)

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 1:16pm
That is a fabulous approach!
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 1:19pm
I never realized you had such a struggle with the exh - but your point and story are much appreciated.

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