broke up with boyfriend

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broke up with boyfriend
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Wed, 04-12-2006 - 11:45am
Sunday night my mom had a discussion with me, basically they're tired of helping me out while I go to school...I'm staying with my parents and my moms my babysitter while i work and go to school, so I cried and I decided to give up school this summer semester, work full-time, put Damian in daycare, and work full-time, I'm a hair stylist so I think I can manage, we can move out and get a decent apartment around this area, that nite I felt so crappy I really needed someone there, I didn't want to be at home, so I left, with no where to go, I went and took Damian to see Ice Age, to make a long story short, my boyfriend hadn't offered any help, time, or anything and I felt like he didn't care, when i called him after the movie, he didn't pick up the phone and the next day he said he had fallen asleep....I went over to his place last nite, it was even the first time he met Damian, he was so good to him, I really saw myself and my son with him in the future, but I found a ticket stub, he went to the movies that sunday nite, not only was he not there for me but he lied to me too, so i ended it, i told him i'm going thru too much to have to put up with his bs too, and he kept calling me and texting me that he realizes how much he wants to be with me, etc, etc, but it's too late he apologized said he knew i'd be upset, but then why did he do it in the first place......am i doing the rite thing? because i was really starting to fall for him, but i feel like i'm at a point in my life where i can't settle for less, i need someone who will put me and my son as a priority not his friends.....and if he can't do that this early on then where will we be 6 months from now, i haven't heard from him yet today, i don't know how long he'll keep trying, but i think i'm done, i feel like after fob i was single for 3 years, and this is what i get? i feel so crappy, and i have to go to work, ugh, times like these i wish i worked at a desk and didn't have to put all personal life aside and go to work being happy....

 

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Wed, 04-12-2006 - 12:17pm

From the sounds of your letter I would agree with your actions.

BUT we have not heard the whole story and what he has done over time. You were really upset when you made this decision. So I am not sure. But I do know that you should never feel like you are settling and you should feel special - so whatever you decide for you is good. Keep us posted.

Sorry you have to go through this. It is a shame that your parents can no longer help you when you are trying to go to school. Maybe after a little break they will help again. I hope you do find a way to finish school.

HUGS!

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Wed, 04-12-2006 - 12:17pm

I'm so sorry! I know how hard this is, but it sounds like you did what you needed to do.

If he's lying to you already, even though it's about "little" things, what would stop him from lying about the big things?

You're having a rough go of it, but things will get better. Keep your chin up, honey, and we're here for you!


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Wed, 04-12-2006 - 9:27pm
I totally agree with moodygrneyes....if he lies about little things, he'll lie about big things. best to stay away from this one






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Wed, 04-12-2006 - 10:53pm

Awww sweetie (((HUGS)))


What a tough day!


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Wed, 04-12-2006 - 11:52pm

"am i doing the rite thing?"

"i feel like i'm at a point in my life where i can't settle for less, i need someone who will put me and my son as a priority not his friends.....and if he can't do that this early on then where will we be 6 months from now..."

sweetie, you just answered your own question.

So many hugs to you. You are already determined to make this work, so you will.

--snow

(Okay, WHY is the hugs icon so..well...ugly!?!? it looks like a blob of chewing gum instead of a bear--or what I think is supposed to be a bear??...Is it a bear!? Is it a bear made out of chewing gum perhaps???!)

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Thu, 04-13-2006 - 9:19am
lol - it's a bear made of chewing gum!






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Registered: 04-13-2006
Thu, 04-13-2006 - 11:12am
I think you are doing the right thing. If he cant even tell you he is going to the movies how do you know if he is not lying about something more. I think you should never lower your standards for the man that will be the father of you child. It will be ok and believe me there are so many other good men out there. Ones that would be there for you and your child. Everything will be ok.
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Registered: 04-17-2003
Thu, 04-13-2006 - 3:01pm
You did the right thing. The others are right. If he will lie to you about small things, then you can bet he will lie about the big things too. You deserve better than that. Don't waste too much time being sad about dumping him. The right one will come along when the time is right! Don't EVER settle!!
Stephanie