Call from Taz this morning ...

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Call from Taz this morning ...
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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 8:14am

i am afraid things are going to rev up. Hopefully he backs off again, but i dont know. The doc told me to email that letter Averey wrote him about "Getting beder". He apparently REALLY took that as I am putting into her head that he is "sick".


This AM he called & I handed the phone to Ave to answer since i try not to speak with him. He immedietly asked for me. He said basically the following "Are you going to let me see her? I missed that appt w/ the doctor b/c i thought it was next Monday. You cant keep doing this. I have to see her. Im going crazy. I feel like Im going to explode. This isnt good for her. I dont know what this doctor thinks he's doing but he has NO RIGHT to keep her from me. I dont know what the hell my atty is doing, going along with this. If you want child support again, youre going to have to let me see her. This isnt good for her, & its not good for you or the doctor either, take that as a threat if you want, but I am getting really pissed off about this".


I just told him to call the doc or his atty, & hung up.


20 min later he called back 5X & left a VM when i never answered. He said, more calmly, "PLEASE stop telling her Im sick. Please answer, I want to talk to her".


My explanation to Averey about the "sickness" has been that the reason Daddy gets so angry easily, & says things he shouldnt, is b/c his brain doesnt always work like other peoples. If he meets with the doctor & does what he is supposed to, maybe he can get better at not being so angry. SHE takes that as "sick". Well ... in reality .. he IS sick.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 6:13pm

Yes, thanks everyone. I can & do forward to the psyc. Well, he doesnt do email, so i have to print it out & drop it in his office mailbox. I do that every few weeks, with an update as to how things are going, so he has it at his fingertips.


Just want to point out that I ignore 95% of what he throws at me. He is constantly trying to talk to me when he speaks to Ave (tonite, perfect example ... she called him & towards the end he asked to talk to me. I told her to tell him I wasnt avaliable, & to email me. If he would have given her a hard time, I would have hung up). So i RARELY do respond. But i also no that NO repsonse is the best.

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Sun, 01-20-2008 - 8:34am
Oh I know you barely respond - with all he throws at you that must be near impossible and I know when you do respond it is the absolute exception to the rule. My point is that that would drive me crazy I think to not be responding to what was being thrown at me constantly and to program another response like just forwarding the email to someone or the pysch is at least a response so I wouldnt feel like I was just taking it. I hope that makes sense.
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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 11:50am

I just can't believe that he would be doing all this. This man trully nees help. I really hope this works out in the ong run. I will keep my fingers crossed for your family. Maybe your daughter needs to be separated from this behavior-I don't know if she is directly exposed to it or not so I don't want to put my foot in my mouth. you are right this man needs help b/c he is sick-sick in the head-but alot of people will not admit it.


Be strong and it sounds like you are already so I know it will be okay. Have you looked into legal Aid? they offer free lawyers when you cannot afford it. The couselor might have other avenues you can take instead of all of it coming out of your pocket-you have enough to worry about as it is. I am sorry

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