Calling Pacsun....How are you today?

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Calling Pacsun....How are you today?
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Thu, 05-29-2008 - 11:17am

Just checking in to see how you are.

Cat
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Thu, 05-29-2008 - 5:36pm

LMAO!!


I know! Just think how neat that would look. Hot glue gunning all those pretty CDs onto the paint job. OMG I'm cracking up. I'll bring the teddy bear he got me and set it up on top like a cherry. Hehe...I love it.

~Pacific~
~Pacific~
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Registered: 09-25-2004
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 7:10pm

Hi Pac,


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Thu, 05-29-2008 - 7:19pm

I agree about what Dance said... that while you might be able to deal with all the issues that BE brings into the relationship- the drinking, the FWB, the drinking buddies, the "lost" daughter... all of those things are just not things you want YOUR DD to be around. And if things were to become permanent with you guys, then DD will be exposed to all the bad role models. Not that YOU want to be exposed to all of that, either! But as an adult, you can choose to handle them better than your DD could.


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

~<

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 7:43pm

Its sad but true. I know all this logically and even my heart is pulling at me and everything in me seems to whisper to me to just cut and run. It's like on Deal or No Deal when the contestant is standing there with a deal from the banker and that flashing light to push, make that deal,..and the whole audiance sreaming No Deal! Its like what I feel inside.


I'm sad and angry and together its pretty much wiped me out mentally. I fought hard for "us" and I'm staring at the reality that he will not fight for us like I do.


I'm at a loss but I know I will get out and run or bike or try and meet some new people. It just really stinks right now.


~Pacific~



Edited 5/29/2008 7:44 pm ET by pacific_sun
~Pacific~
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 7:49pm
Hey Pacs!!
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 7:59pm

That sounds funny! I'm up for a good read. Since I'll be spending the weekend solo alone I'll have some good book by the pool time.


I'd love to go see that movie. That would be so cool if we lived near by each other to hang out!


thanks for thinking of me :)

~Pacific~
~Pacific~
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 8:04pm
Hey no problem!
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Thu, 05-29-2008 - 8:33pm
Huge hugs to you!
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 05-30-2008 - 8:32am

Hey Pac,


Just sending some chocolate your way today. Hope your hanging tough (im sure you are). I was thinking about you last night and was mad and sad and relieved for you all at the same time...ok so maybe i was projecting some of my baggage into your situation but im hoping that you see it as a relief in time...an out if you will to an unhealthy situation. I really dont think that love should be such a challenge. Ok maybe thats a bit lazy on my part but i guess i mean it shouldnt be such a hurtful challenge and the obstacles that you have had to continue to cross with BEs havent necessarily made you stronger (im sure they have) but more have been painful. Love just shouldnt hurt so much...thats all. I hope you stay true to your gut...listen to it. We really do know how to find our own happiness...its letting it in thats the killer part - ok was i projecting again??


All that blabbering on was me just saying "hey was thinking about you...hope your well"


M

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Registered: 12-06-1998
Fri, 05-30-2008 - 8:58am
{{{{{hugs}}}}} Pac Sun. I agree with the others, you do seem to be handling this so well. You must be strong person.
PS I love the glue gun idea!

 



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