Calling/texting a guy
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| Sun, 07-20-2008 - 2:01pm |
I met this guy at the bar/restaurant I work at. He was really hot, charming and funny, kissed my hand. We started talking and did some big time flirting...he even proceeded to pick me up literally. We've talked on the phone a couple of times. Because of our conflicting work schedules, he works during the day and I've been working nights at the bar, it's very difficult to plan a date. He also owns his own ranch so he has his animals to take care of besides the full-time job.
I sent him a text two days ago telling him to have a good weekend and hope to see him soon but didn't hear back from him. I really don't know if guys use the busy with work reason because they really are busy or they're just not that interested. I've heard that if a guy is interested, he will call even if he's busy, lost in the Himalayan mountains, etc. If I'm having to be the one to initiate calling I really don't want to be "prodding" someone or pursuing someone who really doesn't care if they see me or not.
I don't know if I should call him again or if I should let this one go. Ladies, do you pursue the guys you're interested in? If so, how much of the time do you call him or he calls you?

Good question.. when i first got back into dating (about 2 years ago), i called\texted guys first all the time, but ya know what.... it never really worked out. In my experience it is true... if he's into you, he will chase you, take initive, and keep the momentum going... even if he's busy.
Being friendly and open is all you can do... calling once lets him know you are interested and nothing more on your part is needed. I've also read (and have experienced) if the guy only calls once a month... he's only interested in sex... which can be fine in some cases (like an FWB). When the guys is into you, interested.... he calls (at least weekly), texts (prob daily), asks you out, etc...
I'm having the same issue with this right now too. After Friday's great date with chefguy I haven't heard from him except for 1 text message. But again he had to work a double yesterday and I don't know about today. I sent him an email today saying I had a great time, THanked him and asked if we had any mutual time this week. Was that too much too soon? I hate how much I second guess myself with this whole dating thing.
Loonybunny, I loved the advice you gave. I have to agree that even if the man is busy if he's really into you then he'll at least text or something.
GL with this.
JL