camp "counselling"

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Registered: 07-17-2005
camp "counselling"
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Sat, 06-17-2006 - 5:53pm
Last summer my children went to a day camp, they became fond of the counselor, being much younger than me, I thought he was an ok guy. My children were sad one day, because it was my birthday, they were at day camp and I was working. So, the counselor made me a birthday cake for when I picked them up. I was very touched by this. Starting to like him a little more at this point....So, nothing more happened. On the last day of camp, we gave him a little "thank you" gift. HE suggested that we get together sometime and we exchanged e-mail addresses...and kept in touch. We have gone out a couple of times now. But, my question is that it is always with my children. We have a blast together. He is so considerate, funny, smart, he backs me up when I get after the kids, the kids love him and he enjoys being with them. I find myself thinking about him a lot. He goes to my son's ball games. My question is...should I take a chance and ask him out on an "adult only date"? Or would that be risking we have now. Should I wait and see if suggests something more. Or should I take it that he likes just hanging out with "all of us" and keep it on the friendly level. He is single, not dating anyone and I am divorced. He signs his e-mails "love ya"
Thanks all input is welcome!!!!
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 12:45pm

Hi Jennifer and welcome to our board,

My opinion is that you wait it out until he is ready to ask you out for an adult only type date. It is best to assume friendship unless there is a true interest in something else. How long has this been going on?

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Registered: 07-17-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 5:23pm
Thanks for your input...I was thinking on those lines too. But, I have friends who think I should make the first move. It has been going on for almost a year now, but not consistant. We have only hung out 3 times. But, we do keep in touch through e-mail. This year my children won't be going there. Thanks again, I will hang in there.
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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 6:44pm

Hi Jennifer,


Welcome to the board.


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Registered: 06-30-2003
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 7:09pm

Does he go to your son's baseball games just to watch your son play? or does he have another reason for being at those games?

How much younger is he?

I really don't think you should ask him out. I know Alison said she had a good experience with asking her guy out, but I prefer a man who will ask me out. The guy you're talking about has had almost a year to ask you out. That's a long time to be shy or on the fence.

The fact that he signs his emails "love ya" would kind of weird me out too.