Can anyone help with a script?

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Registered: 02-13-2004
Can anyone help with a script?
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Fri, 04-29-2005 - 8:48pm

So I've had a couple dates with a really unbelievable guy, very sweet. Granted I don't know very much about him, he has been patient with my struggle to find babysitters. He's a perfect gentleman (which in my neck of the wood is rare) opens doors, pulls out your seat etc. GRABS the check as soon as it is placed on the table. No dutch offers necessary. He hasn't even tried to lay ONE palm on me and didn't push for a kiss on the 2nd date. (I don't know maybe I wasn't clear that he could have gotten one). At first I didn't think he liked me because he didn't try anything but 5 mins after dropping me off called back and said that he had wanted to give me a hug (oh well) but thought I ran into the house a little to quickly. (i would have lingered if i thought he was more interested). i really wasn't expecting to have such a great experience my first time back out there, but i'd don't want to stop seeing him and certainly don't want to discourage him from wanting to see me.

But i'm only two months out the previous relationship and i had hoped to do the dating scene a little while longer this time, but i also want to get to know him more. . I want to bring this up with him, but don't know where to begin ... Am I just wanting my cake and eating it too?

YOUR VERY TRULY, 

SONYA mommy to beloved son,"K". 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-30-2005 - 2:39pm

I'm not sure why you think you need to say anything, and to me, it seems like it would actually be a little presumptuous to say anything (unless he's asked you to be exclusive and you didn't post about that). Just continue to date and get to know him, and meet and date other people as well. I don't generally agree to date someone exclusively until we've been dating at least 1-2 times a week for at least 6-8 weeks...I like to take my time getting to know someone before I agree to close off my other dating options. You shouldn't assume anything about his desire to date you exclusively after only 2 dates...in fact, it's safest to always assume that the other person is dating other people until you've specifically discussed and agreed otherwise.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Sat, 04-30-2005 - 2:40pm

Since you're newly out of a relationship, go slow and have fun. Don't just get to know this ONE guy better- make other dates and get to know more guys. You don't want to fall into the role of a girlfriend again or get your hopes up for something more too soon. What you want to do is have fun and learn more about yourself and what you want in a relationship.

So my suggestion would be to just accept another date with him and don't worry about any script or getting hot and heavy.

Alison

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