Can FWB Work?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-27-2005
Can FWB Work?
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Fri, 05-02-2008 - 4:22am

I've always been curious to know how this could work?


The down side to FWB is that someone can get hurt.

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Registered: 03-25-2002
In reply to: l81morex
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 7:06pm

one of the parties usually will agree to the situation because they hope that the other person will realize what they have and want more.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-27-2005
In reply to: l81morex
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 8:07pm
No prospects but different women cross my paths all of the time so I'm sure something good will happen soon.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-21-2007
In reply to: l81morex
Sat, 05-03-2008 - 1:38am

I think FWB works great, when it works.


The only thing I've run into is that the friends, well they kinda stay friends. So, now that you've moved on with your life and found someone to be serious with, they are still there. In my experience, as a female, my old-time FWB have a hard time understanding that they aren't grandfathered in now that I'm in a serious, monogamous relationship. It's done, kaput.


I haven't had much trouble stating that, but I've been fairly irritated that I would have to explain these things to people I haven't slept with in years, but am still friends with. So, just remember, you make the bed you get to lie in for better or worse ;)


iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2003
In reply to: l81morex
Sat, 05-03-2008 - 8:35am

It's done, kaput.


I'm sure they understand why you (the universal you here, not anyone in particular) no longer want to sleep with them.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: l81morex
Sat, 05-03-2008 - 12:29pm

"Psst... FWB, fill in MrRight on how to XYZ like you do so well.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: l81morex
Sat, 05-03-2008 - 3:17pm

"(Psst... FWB, fill in MrRight on how to XYZ like you do so well.


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Registered: 08-08-2007
In reply to: l81morex
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 6:39pm

If you have a FWB, then you'd carry the friendship with you throughout your other

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Registered: 11-03-2003
In reply to: l81morex
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 6:51pm

I wonder if anyone else has issue with their SO remaining just friends with their past FWB?


I can't imagine ever being comfortable with it - from so many directions!


~a~

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-21-2007
In reply to: l81morex
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 10:36pm

Well I'm just throwing my 2 cents in as the opposite party. I have zero interest in being with the FWB people, due to just wanting to be with the guy I'm with. They are good friends, as they have always been (all 3 of them). Despite having an open invitation, I'm just not interested. That's probably how your guy feels too.

I went and looked at the house that my last and best FWB/kinda boyfriend bought. Loved the house. It was kind of tough to escape the overriding realization that I could be living in that house if I'd just signed on. Would have worked great if I could have lived in it without him. So, FWB are just that for a reason. If it had been a workable relationship they would have done that. He chose you instead and is obviously continuing to choose you :)

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Registered: 06-18-2006
In reply to: l81morex
Tue, 05-06-2008 - 1:17am

Hi Soonee,

Your comments ring SO TRUE to my experience. Two of the guys I was sexual with, looking back now weren't even FWB but more "Sex Only". It was more once they were done with having sex with me, stopped any communication even though I wanted to remain friends with them. I wasn't expecting to be best friends with them but an occasional email or phone call to say "how are you doing?" would be nice. Then to find out that one of them is dating/in a relationship with someone else makes it hurt even more.

I'm sort of in a FWB situation. This was with a guy I dated and had sex with once last year. I fell in love with him. We got into an argument because I got too needy for him and stopped talking. We started talking again in a couple of months ago. He invited to a party where it brought back all those feelings I had for him. We fooled around a bit but didn't have sex although I probably would have. We still talk on the phone but this is a busy time with his job and he lives 50 miles away so I'm okay with not seeing him and not feeling needy with him

I think that FWB can work if both people are on the same page. I have found that casual sex is very difficult for me to do even though I think I can at the beginning when I get involved with these guys. I wind up getting very emotionally attached. I have shed many tears over these guys - I doubt that they are crying over me.

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