Can I just snap my fingers?

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Can I just snap my fingers?
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Thu, 08-09-2007 - 10:34am

Well, I haven't really thought much about dating recently. I'm not really in the mood to be fishing through a bunch of guys. Honestly I'm not really in much of a dating mood recently so I haven't really been looking. But, here is the weird part, I am kind of ready for a relationship. I would like someone to hang out with, watch a movie, snuggle up, some intimacy would be nice.

I'm feeling a little lonely and introspective today. I know that I can't really have a relationship without dating. I'm kind of hoping some great guy can just bump into me random and just think I'm terrific (hey it could happen). I know that is unlikely to happen. I'm not getting any younger and time isn't going to stop. Life will keep happening. Maybe I should try to lose some weight so that someone might actually be interested in me. I don't know. I know things are much different at my age, I'm no spring chicken after all. I'm no raving beauty either just an average looking girl, with an average job.

I guess I'm in a bit of a weird mood today. I was reading through some of the threads today and saw someone's mention of the holidays being right around the corner. I'm not ready for that yet. I'll be 40 right after Christmas. I'm not ready!!!! I guess this is just a bit of a vent. I don't know why this hit me all of a sudden. Things have been going along pretty well. I may try to head to a MeetUp event tomorrow and see how that goes. Kids are with their dad this weekend so that would be an easy thing to do.

Any suggestions would be good, or if you would like to toss some great guy you know my way.... (LOL)

Priscilla

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Thu, 08-09-2007 - 10:44am
First of all! I've seen you and you are NOT average! LOL
You are beautiful! You could very easily find a date last minute!
I am sooo glad you are going to a MEETUP! I am going to one tomorrow night to as well! Can't wait. They are so much fun! I really think you'll have great potential to possibly meet someone their. And if not, you have people to hang out with and eventually someone new (guy) will join the group and spark your attention.
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Thu, 08-09-2007 - 11:50am
You are definitely not in the boat alone. I think everyone, guys & gals, go through what you are feeling. Go to your MeetUp, get a pedicure or manicure, or some small treat for yourself to remind you what a great person you are. Even the simplest things a lot of times can help us feel so special. Like you and probably everyone on this board, there are times when I crave companionship. You are suppose to .... we are a gregarious species.
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Thu, 08-09-2007 - 11:57am

Hey Priscilla - just sending you some support...I think we have all "been there done that". I am the same age as you and it sounds like our BIG b-days are just weeks apart. I am not looking forward to it either. But....it is just a number (I know that is a much easier concept to verbalize than feel). See if you can turn it around and use that factor as motivation instead of dread.
I too have 10-15lbs I would like to lose. I know I would totally feel dynamight if I could achieve that goal. I am looking at Thanksgiving as my target date .... happy to buddy with you if that would be helpful :)
I think going to a meet-up is a great idea and I think that that suggestion to get your nails done or wear pretty lingerie is a great way to put you in the right frame of mind. Hang in there Priscilla

Sending you some supportive (((((((Hugs)))))))

Rose

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Thu, 08-09-2007 - 4:39pm

40 is the new 20. LOL!!

I think you just need to try to get out of the house a bit more. Exercise, Meetup - they are all good stuff - sounds like you know what you need and will get there. Good to hear you will get a break from the kids.

Go read the Power of NOW thread - it is much too soon to think about Xmas and to think about Xmas and turning 40 is too much - what about today and tonight?

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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 12:59am

I know exactly how you feel. I don't have the patience to be a "dater" either - but when you are our age, it is not as easy as going to a (frat) party and meeting a potential date.
I have never been a dater - I am of the thought "if it happens, it happens".. but those moments are few & far between these days. I need to change my theory with two kids now. When I was in high school & college, stuff like that happened, but the dating pool is much more shallow now.
I think we need to be re-programmed :)

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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 2:54am

40 is the new 20? then I must be 30! yeahhhh LOL. Been there felt that. I too never been a "dater" (see my post on The Singles forum). I look to be and connect and do something with someone I like. Is that a date? Only if I pay LOL.

My problem is that when I feel it's "right" I tend to jump in right then and there and scare the woman away!

Ah well... it IS about patience.

Hugs to Priscilla.

Mark

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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 12:57pm

Thanks for the hug. Hey, does Mark count as a guy? He hugged me ;o)

Priscilla

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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 1:01pm
no.
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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 1:10pm

You suck!!!! (LOL) BTW what are you doing towards one of these challenges? I haven't seen that. You don't get away with nothing.

Flirting is easy and comes very naturally to me. So that won't be hard. But I have to actually put myself in a position to do it. I think I will decline to go with my girlfriend tonight and go out with some others. Hopefully she won't be too mad. I want her to go if she really wants to do that but I don't want to feel like I have to. I have lots of girlfriend and since I kind of stayed away from men last week, I probably shouldn't do that again this week.

Priscilla

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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 1:18pm

Whadda you mean?! *I* don't count as a "guy?" *tongue sticking out*

Gawd what do I have to do to prove that! (insert lewd act here)

Mark (who on the Internet is really a woman posing as a guy)