Can I vent? Friday woes
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Can I vent? Friday woes
| Fri, 11-05-2004 - 9:34am |
As I may have mentioned things have been strange with my work for awhile due to complete change in leadership. So yesterday, the interim exec director came to me with yet another reorganization they're doing. And long story short, I was hurt because I've been there 3 years longer than anyone else and have been hearing how highly everyone thinks of my talents and dedication and worth and yet in the new reorganization, I'm one of two people who is not hourly that will still have to report to someone other than the e.d. and the people who don't include a couple people that I've regularly had to take on their job as well as my own because they were just too overwhelmed. Anyway, when I came home, dh couldn't understand why I was upset and said it was my fault for not seeking leadership--for not going in and saying I want you to create a directorship for me and said my resume which I thought showed increasing responsibilty and growth just shows lack of focus and that I'm a great superclerk but basically that he thought I got what I'd asked for. Needless to say I was crushed. And no, he wasn't trying to put me down, he just doesn't understand that I don't want to be a d()* office manager, I want to use my brain in the ways that I have talent and want to use my education (I'm not putting down office managers or saying they don't use their brains but it doesn't take a masters degree for that). I'm still basically in my same marketing advertising position as an assistant/associate to the marketing director but he doesn't let me do anything and hasn't given me much training at all. Anyway, I'm just whining because this morning I'm feeling like I'll never amount to anything, that the best I can hope for is general office work. Thanks for listening, gotta go to that stupid job now.

If you want something ask for it...it cant hurt hun.
It may be a no...for "now" but in business things do change.
I understand your frustration really I do-- try again and see what happens you may be pleasantly surprised.
I'm not putting down office managers or saying they don't use their brains but it doesn't take a masters degree for that...HEY! I am an office manager!!!! yeah, you're right it doesn't take a masters, but an office manager ends up running EVERYTHING (actually, I do it all. AP, AR, Parts purchasing and maintaining our job database and files.... more than a reg. office manager) and they couldn't live without me here. ;)
But my DH sounds much likey your's. When I complain because I am still only being paid the salary of ONE employee, and getting the raises if one employee, but do the work of several....DH just says "your fault. Have some confidence. You know what you can do. Put together a brief presentation of what you've done for the company, have a sit down with your boss, present your case and then ask for what you believe you deserve. the worst they can do is say no." (of course that that point, becuase he's so fiercely loyal to me and really does believe the company can and SHOULD do better for me, he says if they do say "no", I should look elsewhere. But I love it too much here. Would never do that)
For ME personally, "no" would be....devastating!!!! LOL
Is that why you don't walk through the appropriate person's door and say that you'd like to discuss a possible promotion for yourself? I know for me it is!
Andrea, I think you and I could both benefit in our jobs by presenting our best possible points, and highlighting things we've done and then ask for what we deserve. I know why I don't do it. But I've high hopes that one of these days I'll grow the "guts" needed and do it. And then if I get a "no" swallow my pride, and continue doing a great job. Not take that no as a personal rejection, which is highly likely for me and therefore right now, a huge deterrent.
(btw. I just reread my above statement. I was only teasing you about the office manager bit. I am confident in what I do, and I didn't feel put down. Just wanted to jerk your chain a bit. ;)
But I do have a good family and my dh does love me. He wasn't trying to discourage me and does believe in me, he just didn't get that what I needed was support and understanding. In fact, first thing this morning I had an email saying how sorry he was and how much faith he has in me.
Truth is that things are so tenuous in the company right now that I'm afraid if I got my courage up to ask for more or ask them to really give me my due, I'm awfully afraid I could end up with no job at all. Probably wouldn't happen but . . . I've got bills to pay and don't feel like I can take the chance. Ya know? Anyway thanks.
I know. I know how it is to not be willing to "rock that boat" just yet. And yep, sometimes it does help to just vent it out.
he just didn't get that what I needed was support and understanding... I was JUST on the phone with a girlfriend talking about this. I was feeling a little discouraged about the hassles with getting Ty into the program in Denver next week, and told Jas that last night. He was very encouraging and took me through the logical steps as to why it was a good thing. He was right. And I do feel better about it. And I am not going to cancel it. BUT as good as men are for being logical and fixing things, MOST OFTEN I need him to be understanding and sympathetic. And that just frustrates him that it doesn't help. LOL
I most definitely wasn't offended. Totally teasing.
You know, I do like what I do most days. But I think that's because I feel soooo needed and necessary here. And that's important to me. And when it's busy and things are hopping (like they have been lately) that's great. And I LOVE LOVE LOVE my boss and most of my other co-workers...but, this still isn't really what I want. It's just a paycheck. the thing is, I don't KNOW what else I would want to do. So,I will continue to learn what I can about running a small business. Take a class on small business management next semester. Start learning. Because J would some day like to be able to run a small business, and I need to be able to help. I think I would enjoy doing that with him. Because it'd be our thing. So, I'll keep plugging away here.
New Management is a perfect time to sieze the opportunity. They don't know much about you other than what they see.
If you are dissatisfied with your work and feel unappreciated, believe it's going to show, no matter how much you try to hide it. A good management team will see it. BUT they may not necessarily see that you need more of a challenge to motivate you.
Do you have evaluations at work? This is a good time to sit down and discuss goals with your managers. Tell them what your personal goals are and ask them what are the possibilities of getting there. If you don't get evaluated or it isn't going to happen for a long time, call a meeting. Introduce yourself. You don't have to rock the boat or flat out ask for a promotion, but you do need to make it clear to them that you have goals and aspirations that your aiming for and you'd like to map out a plan to get there.
Don't sit back and wait for them to decide where you need to be, give them the info. They may not be able to put you there tomorrow, but atleast they'll know you want it and can work with that information.
good luck!
I told his father and the fool had the nerve to laugh. What an idiot!!! It's not funny in the least. That is a serious offense in school. I'm so disappointed. Sure I am in Dylan, but mostly at his father for finding humor in this.
Mel
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