Can it get any mushier????

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Can it get any mushier????
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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 9:33am

Yesterday, I wasn't having a bad day, but it wasn't the greatest either. Plus, I was missing CG. So I sent him a text in the afternoon and asked him if he was able and willing to have a drink with me after work.

He said: "absolutely! are you having a bad day?"

I wrote back: Do I have to have a bad day to want and see you.

He wrote back: BIG GRIN! WHEN AND WHERE?

I told him to call me back when he's off work, which he did. We were talking about where to go and suddenly, out of the blue he says: I don't care where we go, what would you like to do "honey"? LOL...

I was like: HONEY???? But I didn't say anything and I knew by how he said it, he slipped because he had a brief awkward silence. hehehe

So later we meet up and we go to this great place for a beer and some pizza. We were just chatting away forever and he said, he felt so connected to me that it was crazy. How he's been on so many dates, but nothing like this has ever happened. AWE!

We went back to his place to watch the debate and we just cuddled on the couch, no kissys, no huggies, just holding hands and his arms around him as we watched and discussed the debate.

Then he suddenly turns my head to him: And I said.. Yes, honey???

He laughs and said: "Funny you should say that, because I was JUST about to ask you, how you feel about pet names." LOL

Then he told me that he accidently blurted out the honey today and felt awful later, because he thought I might hate that.

So I said: No honey, your my honey too.

HEHEHE
Sickening.
Then he goes on and starts talking to me about stuff and says he probably shouldn't be so emotionally open to me about how and what he feels. I said it's nice, because I like letting him know how I feel. Or sometimes we don't have too, because we keep reading or finishing each others sentences.

We did discuss how this is all so quick and sudden and that we feel like we've been together for years. I think it's because we are so much alike. We talk about work and how we are so similiar in every aspect, including our parenting skills.

He keeps telling me that he just loves to listen to my opinions and that I don't always agree with him, but challenge him. I like listening to him and hearing what he has to say and then asking him why he feels the way he does. He's so open to that and I'm open to him.

Just really cool and I hope we can maintain that as I tend to get very jealous and odd after I have nakie time with someone. I haven't had it with him and I told him I need more time and to wait. He said, him waiting was well worth it, because we'll have plenty of time for that. :)

Going to the Doctor now to get a few answers with what is going on with my body! Wish me luck! Love you all!

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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 9:49am

YIPPEE...honey...I got goose bumps reading your update. Thanks for sharing a great update.


best of luck at the Dr.


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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 10:56am

I'd take being called Honey over my nickname: Goober :P

I absolutely love everything about this one! It's good to have a POSITIVE connection with someone, and not feel like you have to question everything like you did with the artist, hey?

Hopefully the doc can give you some answers today- do let us know what he/ she says!

"Honey and Honey sitting in a tree...."

The boy

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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 1:10pm

Usually when I have dated someone, their was always some little issue I had with them, but decided to overlook it due to me being so picky. However, having overlooked them, eventually caused more issues, but the beginning issues were already total red flags...

With the Widow, it was because he was a widow of 6 weeks. LOL issue.
With Mr. History, he was always late or a no show. issue.
With M it was his poor grammar usage and political views
With the guy I broke up with a few months ago, it was more of a race and cultural issue.
With the young artist, it was his age and his selfishness.

But I let those things slide. When I started dating all the other guys, I didn't after the Artist. I realized I can't do that. I have to quit investing time with men that aren't a good match, just to force a match.

Now, I did have the red flag with CG being still separated and not yet divorced, but after listening to him and realizing he never ever discusses or mentions or is bitter about anything. Matter of fact, he often jokes about certain things pertaining to the whole divorce ordeal. I notice how over he is with it all and how well he moved on. Their is never resentment or ugliness. I think it's really great. Even tho his X is livid at him, he says he understands, because of who she was and her pride is hurt and she has a hard time to realize that it wasn't going to work, even after counseling and everything. That since he made that decision, he feels his life is back and he is the person he once was.

I can relate to that. I didn't feel like I was me in my marriage. I found the real me again afterwards.

He did say that sometimes he's a true push over and let's his X take full advantage of him to help makes things easier on the children. And that he is non-confrontational because of the children and often is the doormat to keep the peace. However, I don't really see that. I saw that with M, whose X ruled his life all day long, walking in and out of his house and constantly telling him what to do, but not CG. I at least haven't noticed it yet, but I did take note of it and we did discuss my opinion on that.

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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 1:13pm

Hey Honey

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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 1:36pm

Honey, (I'm totally copying Pac on that), sometimes a strong connection from the beginning is a GOOD thing.

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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 1:36pm

Oh, I totally agree with your list!


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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 1:43pm
That is just SO cute.
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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 1:45pm
He sounds great, and I'm so happy for you!! You deserve it. Good luck with the doctor. I'm saying a prayer for you.
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Sat, 10-04-2008 - 12:39am
Thrilled for you too - but what did the doc say????
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Sat, 10-04-2008 - 3:29pm
I love the mushy stage. I am in the mushy stage and I never wanna leave LOL! It's funny that honey is your nickname. I have the same feeling about baby. I am a pet name person (my big one being hon) but I only call someone I am committed to baby. The first time Ducks Fan called me baby I did a little dance (I was on the phone so he didn't see me.) Very cute. I am so happy for you.
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