Car broke down, I am broke too

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Car broke down, I am broke too
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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 8:56am
When it rains it pours. My car won't start so I am not going to work - hopefully I can later. My poor 75 year old practically crippled father (finally getting knee surgery and/or hip surgery at the end of this month) is driving an hour to see if he can fix it.

I have been borrowing minimal amounts of cash to get by. But once again the bills are mounting and because I am a contract worker right now I don't get paid for 15 to 30 days after invoicing. That and the fact that I can't collect unemployment because I am working (apparently "work" is "earnings" and not actually MONEY!? - very stupid)

So there you have it. Broke - alone - no real job - no support. Yay for me. All I feel is guilty that I have to lean on my elderly parents who have 5 other off-spring that are most likely as soul sucking as I am to them.

Kicks in the rear don't work. Life just sucks right now :( I will hold my breath and hopefully that will change before I suffocate.

Laura

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 10:01am
Laura, tell yourself the truth. You are NOT a loser, you're talented, love your daughter, and are at a rought spot in your life jobwise and financially. It will get better.

Try, if you can, to not string ALL the things you're dissatisfied with together and lump them all in the "My life is worthless" category.

Bad things happen to everyone, cars break down, jobs come and go...even people who are well off or happily married have those same problems. Bad things are something EVERYONE gets to enjoy.

You have a family support system...wish I did. You're blessed by that.

You have job skills, you'll find something if you don't give up.

And you have a daughter you love.

You are a valuable woman all on your own.

The Jack thing isn't working the way you planned...so what? That doesn't mean YOU won't work out, or your LIFE won't work out.

Give yourself time to be sad, then...just keep moving.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 10:04am
Yes!!! When it rains, it sure enough pours. There is not much I can say at this moment that will make you feel any better. I can say that I have been there myself. I've been there where anything bad that can happen, happens. Somehow, though, I did get pass them only be just wiser and stronger for the next time it happens. Not much help in that, because you are feeling terrible, but it will pass and be maybe just a little better tomorrow, or the next day.

Being a contract worker is really hard, especially when you the money now. All I can say here is that maybe you should arrange your contract so that you are paid every 2-weeks, instead of 30, etc. I've done this in my contracts, because I was a single mom and I needed a constant flow of money coming in. My husband also had it in his contract to get paid twice a month and he's an IT Consultant.

I'm sure it's not very easy at the moment to take a look at your situation in a different light, but if you are having money problems and the money is taking too long to come in, make those changes now. It just evens out the field for you next time. Huge Hugs, Marilyn

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 1:55pm

Yep, always pours when it rains. Always.


Sorry things are rough. But you've got your sweet girl, and your own place and you are living the life of someone who does the job she wants to do. That's all got to count for something.


It'll get better.

Becky

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