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| Wed, 10-15-2008 - 4:29pm |
Ok girlees, an update. I’ve been away too long. I don’t know where to start, but here goes.
The summer was hectic with little league baseball and my daughter’s softball game. She has moved out of little league but I still volunteer with little league. So most of the summer for me was spent at a ballfield somewhere. It was all the same people so no new dating prospects out of that activity. During the summer, July 18 to be exact, my dad fell and broke his hip. Because of his heart, one doctor said he would not recommend even touching him. So his options were laying in bed the rest of his life (he’s 74) or taking a chance and having the surgery. So he took the chance and had the surgery. The outcome was alright, but he is in a nursing home until he gets around better. He has about two weeks to go before medicare will stop paying for his stay there. I’m worried about when he goes home as my mom claims she can’t handle him. I love my mom, but she a whole other story and I’ll get on a rant if I go into it so...I’m not going there : )
The day after Father’s Day, my DD went to my brother’s in TX and stayed with him and his wife for a few weeks. I drove down July 3 to get her and made a long weekend out of it. I was broke as a church mouse so I couldn’t really do anything while there although we were able to hit First Monday at Canton. Some of our DFW area girls on here may know what that is but for those of you that don’t, First Monday is miles of shopping once a month in Canton, Texas. Booth after booth of crafts, home decorating things, luggage, you name it, they got it. I love going there!! Bad thing was I could buy anything! Don’t ya just hate that! It was nice visiting with my brother and his wife and DD had a blast while she was there riding my brother’s cutting horses. She loved it there. On the way home we crossed the Missouri state line and she said “Let’s turn around and go back”. She wants to move there and I did start to think about it then my dad fell. Course, that got me thinking about my parents, and we would be nine hours away and also the economy. Finding a new job and all that. I just wouldn’t be able financially to do it right now. I guess I can always wish. It’s just that I have lived in the same place for almost 45 years. There are no opportunities here for me or my DD. I wouldn’t know the first thing about relocating. Which also got me to thinking how sheltered I’ve been all my life. My dad wasn’t happy about me driving 9 hours to my brothers until he found out one of my older sisters was going down also. (she horned in on my trip and I wasn’t too happy about that.) But I just made the best of it and didn’t let it ruin my trip. Sometimes you just need to get away from family. She tends to “look after me” when she’s around me. Course that was her job when we were growing up. But good gosh I’m 44!!!! Stop it already. Plus she gets really obnoxious when she drinks! She got her payback though. She and her husband also brought along his brother and his girlfriend. And the girlfriend really got on my sister’s nerves. I was in the position that I could avoid her LOL!!
I helped the caterer all 4 nights during the rodeo this past August. I’ve helped out before so it, once again, was the same ole crowd. It was fun though and I met some new people but not very many. About all four nights we fed about 700 people. My DD helped also and she had a blast. One night she went home with one of her friends and ole mom here got to party just a little. It was so nice just to sit back and drink a beer at my leisure!!!
I’m still suffering job burn out but am thankful I have a job. It just seems I have to drag myself here and then I drag myself home. As with everyone else, things are really tight. And as always, I’ve been putting myself on the back burner. I’ve been finding myself in a cycle of ups and downs emotionally ever since last November and I can’t seem to make it stop. I get my motivation started about exercise, smoking cessation and projects around the house, and then I just lose my momentum. Maybe I need a happy pill. Surely there’s another way. I don’t like pills. I’m just not in a good place right now, but I keep pluggin along. A little breathing room financially would probably make me feel a whole lot better as I am sure is the same for some of you here. My friend and I were talkign the other day. Gas here is like around $2.78 and she said, you know it's pretty sad to get excited about $2.78 gas. Just a year or so ago we were getting excited about $1.78 gas. What's up with that!!! I think our economy would be a whole lot better if they could somehow cap gas price at a buck fifty across this whole country for like a year. I think they would see the economy get a lot better and probably in a hurry too. Oooo, I better stop or I'm fixin to get on a roll!!
DD still does not see much of her dad so she’s with me 98% of the time. I’m going to have to confront him about it because she does want to see him but he always claims he’s working. He lives out in the middle of nowhere, but I do feel she’s old enough to be there until he gets home from work. He’s just going to have to drive passed the bar instead of having a few before he goes home. If he doesn’t do something, he’s going to lose her if he hasn’t already. She’s made comments about feeling that she’s on the backburner. Someone made an offhand comment to her about him seeing someone. She asked him about it and he told her he has a lot of lady friends. She was with a friend of hers and they were going to somewhere and passed his house and she saw a car in the driveway. Since then she has seen there again several more times. I’ve known about this mysterious car because I’ve had people ask me who he is seeing but I’ve never said anything to her just because I don't know who it is and don't really care either. I’ve told him he needs to tell her something because she’s going to find out and sure enough it’s happened. She’s still having issues with her dad and growing up in general. I just try to be patient with her.
As far as dating prospects ...does it sound like I even NEED to be dating! LOL I was on POF and seen a guy who has moved back here. I didn’t contact him through the site because there is such a stigma about that sort of thing here and have had no contact with him at all. Instead, I’ve been very quietly doing a little investigating but unfortunately am finding he may not be too good of a prospect. He lives with his mom and I know for a fact she doesn’t need help from one of her children financially or in any other way. And I’m almost sure the only thing he drives is a motorcycle. Not too sure about his employment situation either. I realize life doesn’t always go as one plans and things happen, but by 39 (which is his age) you pretty much know where you’re headed, wouldn’t you think? I don’t like to make snap judgments about someone especially since I haven’t even met him, but it makes me wonder. From his profile, it looks like we would have a lot in common, and I was in his age range but I sure don’t want someone I would have to take care of or worse yet him be a leech.
So that has been what’s going on with me in a nutshell. Same ole boring kinda stuff. Sorry it was so long.

Busy summer!!
What stands out about your update is the idea of relocating. I know you're worried about your dad, but a relocation may be a great move for you and your dd. Talk to your brother about work prospects, the housing and school systems. Your dd sounds like she would thrive being closer to your brother- so that would be a great influence in her life.
What are you doing for work right now?
I'm a legal secretary for a sole practing attorney who is like 64. I've worked for him for 18 years. We do a lot of real estate transactions, some divorces. There is no advancement here but he has been so good to me. With his age and my age too, I've been doing a lot of thinking about my future. But jeez louise, the economy is so bad right now. People losing jobs and looking for others. It would be pretty scary.
A lot of pros and cons going through my head. Thing is my brother and his wife are thinking of a second home here since their daughter has moved here. Don't know if I would like being totally alone down there. One huge pro is my DD's dad would have less of a chance to disappoint her. There would be no more "I'll pick you up Sunday afternoon and we'll go eat" only to have "something" come up and him not being able to make it. There's always an excuse. He lives like 15 minutes away from her and she hasn't seen him since like the end of July. It's a bunch of BS!!!!
I loved your update! and so glad you did! I've missed you! What did you used to call the guys in your area? I forgot.
My DD helped also and she had a blast. One night she went home with one of her friends and ole mom here got to party just a little. It was so nice just to sit back and drink a beer at my leisure!!! - I totally get that! I celebrate each time I get at least one kid out of two out of the house. :)
I would continue to investigate the dating prospect. Maybe do a little sleuthing when you do see him. Behind corner buildings and making a dash behind a car. :) I could totally see you doing that. Total James Bond. :) So don't write him off just yet. He just got into town and who knows why he's at his moms. Either to help her or just settling a little before getting his own place. Be patient, you don't have much more to lose!
I hate being so strapped too! Especially when I see things I like. Totally crummy!
So sorry to hear about your dad. I am sure that must keep your mind busy. What does your mom suggest you do. Probably catering both him and her! :(
I know moods can shift! ONe day I'm great, the next day I shift to the dark side!
Have you talked to DD's Dad? What are his visitation rights? Anything you can do to enforce it? I have so many issues with my oldest and her Dad. IT's ridiculous!
big hugs,
Cat
Hi Emma!
Thanks for the update Emma :o)
"I would continue to investigate the dating prospect. Maybe do a little sleuthing when you do see him. Behind corner buildings and making a dash behind a car. :) I could totally see you doing that. Total James Bond. "
LOL, I'll have to start a post on this.
Internet searching of the area has already been done. It would be more expensive to live there than here. And my daughter's only drawback about the school is that they have to wear uniforms. She thought that was pretty gross.
Like I mentioned earlier, for right now I think I need to stay put. The economy is just too scary. I think if it wasn't for DD I'd probably do it in a heartbeat. I would only have me to worry about if things were to not work out financially. It doesn't bother me to eat a bowl of cereal for dinner.
"I have nothing better now then to feed off other peoples threads and adventures! "
Me too!