cautiously moving forward

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cautiously moving forward
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Fri, 11-07-2008 - 11:17am

hello... so here's my update on my date last night with MM. We met for dinner as planned and after work I went to his house. I'm on my period so we behaved.. mostly...


before going home, in a very nonthreatening way i asked him if he still doesn't know what he wants? I have good news and not so good news. No, he still doesn't know. Although he says everytime he sees me that he likes me even more. I know it's more than a physical thing (since nothing really has happened yet)... He said he still has questions but it's too early to worry about them so he's putting those questions aside for now and just seeing where things are going... Like he doesn't know how often he can stay up so late to see me but he said it's worth it. He said people in meetup are starting to catch on but he doesn't care. I told him how i felt cool about just being friends or being something more but that he had to tell me what he wants... He said he's always known he wanted to be more than just friends... just still doesn't know all the particulars or where things are really headed. And he called me multifaceted like a jewel. But i didn't bring up exclusive. I feel we are building a relationship but are still undefined. My gut tells me that i have mesmerized him and engrossed his mind. There are still many uncertainties but i don't feel insecure so things are still good. i feel confident. i feel it's worth it.


Loonybunny

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Fri, 11-07-2008 - 1:16pm

Ok... that's a positive update for the mostpart, even if he's still unsure at least you know he's rattled and you're on his mind.


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Fri, 11-07-2008 - 2:54pm

let him miss me... that sorta naturally happens everytime i have my kid weekend. he still goes out to the meetups but i inevitably hear from him.. which has been assuring me that i am on his mind... like he is on mine. Our next slotted get together is Monday night for Heroes! I'm hoping we have wine too.


he still has some drama llama stuff going on... while we were snuggling, tempting each other etc. he says "you must be evil"... hmmm what? he meant "anything i want this badly, much be evil"... i think that's his drama llama brain logic. It wasn't a serious discussion .. i think he was trying to compliment me on how much he's interested and\or talking about how turned on he was... I said, i'm not evil. "I'm imperfect, yes, but not evil." Then i told him about being on my period.... that was kinda evil. lol...we teased each other a lot.... i think it's okay to build up the anticipation.


but still no exclusive talk means if the new hottie was serious about sushi. i'll go (i think, anyway.) the new hottie is very tempting by the way...


Loonybunny

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Registered: 03-30-2008
Fri, 11-07-2008 - 10:43pm

Who is the new hottie? I must have missed it.


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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 1:17am
Very positive update. And definitely go with new hottie for sushi. You never know.
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Sat, 11-08-2008 - 2:03am

oh my... got another heartfelt email from MM.. now he says he does know what he wants "short term and long term"... and that he hopes one will lead him to the other. My first thought is that i'm the short term... but i'm okay with that at the moment. i don't like to think long term myself anyway. And he said, lets see where this ride takes us... Not to read too much into that but that sounds like a relationship to me... Ride ~ i kinda like that definitions of things. He said he's not sure where things are headed but he is "happy hanging out with me when ours schedules match up." Very positive language. I take it all as a compliment. No one knows long term but the fact that he's willing to see where things might go, to me, means that he's into me.


I replied saying i feel that no matter what happens i am and will be a better person for having met him. And i truly believe

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Sat, 11-08-2008 - 8:14pm
Hey to be honest that's kinda how DF and I ended up together. We just decided to see where it would go and decided we didn't want to date anyone else. We weren't anyways.
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