Childless in Chicago
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| Tue, 08-24-2004 - 5:51pm |
Last Tuesday night I went to the weekly social that the single parents' group had. It wasn't quite what I had expected, but it was ok. It's hard to be the new guy, especially when you're kind of quiet and shy like I am. Everyone was very nice to me, and they went out of their way to make me feel welcome. The president, Katrina, is a riot -- very outgoing and very funny. Everyone was a bit older than I expected, I would guess around between 40 and 45. But I guess that's not too old considering I'll be 40 next year. There were more men there than women. What I didn't expect was that most people were "paired off". The president was introducing people to me as they walked in and she would say "that's so and so and he met his GF through the club". Most people there had a SO or have one, and most of them met through the club. The president and I had a chance to talk and she was honest with me. She said that there aren't a lot of single guys in the club. She said that if I want to join to meet people and have a lot of fun, that's no problem. But if I want to join specifically to meet someone, she said it probably wouldn't happen. She's been in the club for 8 years. At one time the club had 150 members. But, the meeting locations have changed a few times, and she said every time they changed locations, they lost people. She said they are looking for new and younger people to join. Since I don't have the kids tonight, I thought I'd go out there again for a little bit. On Saturday, the president is having a bunco/poker party at her house, which I hear is a lot of fun. Since I will be childless on Saturday, I plan to check it out. I look at it this way. I may not be able to make a lot of Tuesday night socials because I would get home too late, but I can try to make the stuff on the weekend if I don't have the kids. It's worth a try. And believe me, I'd just like to meet new people and make friends. I'm not looking for anybody. I just want to keep myself from being bored.
It's been over 2 weeks since my "breakup". I'm trying to keep busy, but I have to admit that I miss him. It's hard going from talking to a person almost every day to not talking to them at all. I hope in time I won't think about him so much or miss him.
Last weekend I went out with a girl I used to work with. She's also a single mom. I hadn't seen her in over a year. It was a lot of fun. We agreed to go out again soon. I'm trying hard to make connections with people and keep up with friendships. Everyone needs friends. Especially me right now.
Donna

Do keep up with all those friends you haven't had a chance to see for awhile, they are so important to us.
Alison
Do you have a way to attend a yoga class or other exercise class on a regular basis? I have found it very easy to meet tons of people that way.
Your kids will have a good learning experience for you and it will be good for their dad to spend time with them. Enjoy your week off.
I think you will miss your ex less as time passes. You are certainly through the worst of it now.
Chin up!! :-)
Sounds great Donna! Childless in Chicago actually sounds fun. I am glad you're making the best of it.
I've never played bunko. You'll have to tell us how that goes.