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Christmas gifts for the Ex
| Mon, 11-26-2007 - 12:08pm |
My b/f's exwife wants him to still take their child shopping for her for Christmas. She's remarried and the child lives with them. Is this proper or should her going on 4 year husband be in charge of this task? Seems weird to me. Thanks.

I don't know - people can be weird.
I am not sure since she asked me to make sure it happens. I was too dumbfounded to reply and frankly didn't think it was my place. She has already purchased him some (not ONE, SOME) gifts from their child. I could've (and actually have planned TO handle) this end of things, but I was not checked with and didn't think for a second to let her know. I haven't ever been in this position and the kid is only 6.
I can definitely see how that would be an awkward situation.
Yes, that does seem strange.
I guess for me it's never been an issue, Nicolas has never gotten a present for his dad.
I don't know - I might not see the harm in getting something simple from the local Walgreens that is nice - it is bonding time with you and the child - if you are really serious about your BF AND AND AND if she is not a pain in other ways. But if she is demanding and causing problems this is another story. I mean, it tis the season and the child would like for you to acknowledge the mom and what is a bottle of lotion or a stuffed animal or coffee mug or flavored coffee or candy or something fun like that in the grand scheme of things?
Blended families can do a variety of creative things to improve communication and good feelings where children are involved.
In the past--when we were newly ex's I did help my daughter pick something out for her dad and he bought me a ridiculously expensive present "from her" but only that first year!
April
Okay, I have an update. I talked to my b/f and he seemed a bit shocked, saying he thinks he got her a g/c to Kmart last year. I "offered" my opinion that it would be nice to have their child pick something out for her