Comfortable is romantic

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Comfortable is romantic
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Mon, 01-05-2009 - 1:19am

So DF and I have definitely hit that comfortable stage. He says to me tonight, "I know this is the least romantic thing to say but I haven't slept that good in so long. The was possibly the best sleep of my life." So I'm laughing and agree that the sleep was just amazing (the nakie time was too.) He and I are early risers but we both could have slept three or four more hours. And we slept in (we are usually out of bed by seven and we slept til nine today.)

So when I started thinking about it maybe it is kinda romantic. I think it speaks to the level of trust we have and how comfortable we are together that when we sleep with each other we sleep better than we do apart.

Anyone else at or past this stage and agree? I've never felt so comfortable with anyone- not even my ex husband.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Mon, 01-05-2009 - 10:13am

I have what I call an easy compatibility with CM that I treasure. I would much rather sleep with him, than alone, but he has issues with my bed....to short for him. lol. Aside from the sleeping arrangements, we are very comfortable with each other in general. I don't have to fill the silence that sometimes happens when we are driving somewhere. I've learned that its OK to just BE. I suspect alot of the comfortable feelings come from being older this time around. The pressure to get married, have kids, keep up with the Jones' isn't there any more. We are who we are and accept each other like that!

Enjoy!
~b~

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Mon, 01-05-2009 - 10:39am

Yep -I'm totally with you on the comfortable thing.

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Mon, 01-05-2009 - 12:45pm

I completely agree!!


I love how warm and comfrting that stage feels. I'm there with BE as well, even though the chmistry and fire still burns hot. I just love feeling comfortable...it is the best right?


I love this line "the sleep was just amazing"

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Mon, 01-05-2009 - 4:13pm
I know that CK and I are at that stage too!.
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Mon, 01-05-2009 - 11:15pm
That's very much like what we have. There is no need to fill the silence because it isn't uncomfortable. Just being with him makes me relax and feel happy.
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Mon, 01-05-2009 - 11:19pm
I'm loving this. I am happier laying on the couch watching Star Wars with him than I ever was at crowded bars with my friends. Another thing he does- when I fall asleep his arms are around me, when I wake up they are still there!!
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Mon, 01-05-2009 - 11:22pm
I love lines like that. He's not a flowery words guy so when he says something like that he means it. He was yawning today and I asked if he slept okay and he said maybe I should come to his house just to sleep on work nights so he gets good sleep. The flaw in that is I know we wouldn't get out of bed (and not even in the dirty way.)
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Mon, 01-05-2009 - 11:24pm
In my past the only time a guy cuddled me in bed was warming up to trying to get some. DF says he just sleeps better if I'm in his arms. Sure the close access to nakie time doesn't hurt but he cuddles anyways. I'm dying for another night of sleep like that.
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Tue, 01-06-2009 - 10:11am


Man, can I relate to that!!! Having exh try to sleep with his arm around me felt more like a dead weight than anything comfortable. I got to the point where I preferred my own side of the bed thank you very much. And we won't even talk about his snoring!! I spent many nights on the couch cuz I couldnt get him to stop! CM cuddles for as long as I want before sleep or after nakie time, whenever. I often wake up during the night when he rolls over and puts his arm around me and pulls me close. LOVE THAT!!! wish that happened more often!!

~b~

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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 1:02am
That's my favorite- waking up a little to him pulling me closer. Especially because at times he pulls me so close it feels like he can't get me close enough. We sleep naked too so it's intimate skin to skin contact.
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