Confused....
Find a Conversation
Confused....
| Thu, 10-04-2007 - 11:07pm |
Been dating a guy for 6 months, really thought everything was great, I love him, he loves me, have met his kids and parents, he has met mine. I felt like he was the soul mate I had always wished for. Every thing seems right until today.

Pages
I guess I do need my coffee. I thought you were writing the stuff in blue and I was trying to figure out if you got married again and I didn't know it because I know you have been divorced for much longer than 21 months, Soonee!! LOL!!
The comment I would make on being by yourself is that you can develop a good base of friends as a single person and good activities that you like. You can build a great relationship with your children and provide stability for them when you are not focusing on a relationship. All of this builds a good base so you are not emotionally needy and you can make good dating decisions and not have the whole dating process throw you off kilter. I know this because I spent 4 years not dating anyone. I cleaned and redecorated the whole house, boosted my business, got in great shape, paid attention to my looks and my DS is a happy camper and doesn't mind the idea of me dating. I am a much better person and able to attract a much better mate because of all of this.
I am not going to say that it is not possible to meet the man of your dreams while in transition because I have personally witnessed people doing that successfully - one woman who met her soulmate right after a divorce and they have been together for many years and are so happy - they wear matching outfits. She got lucky.
But I have also witnessed many people who rushed from one relationship to another who are now going through a second divorce. The odds are more with you for this circumstance. We have 2 board alumni that I know of who came here and dated right out of a divorce and are now divorced again. I also know of a dear friend's sister who is just finishing her second divorce. Her first husband was very controlling and abusive - she spent $45K on a child custody battle. And her second husband was much younger and abuses alcohol and drugs. She lost her house and has to go back to work and gets no child support. Her children are left in the care of others for long hours so she can make a living and I am worried about the one who is preteen.
Pages