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Confused Daughter
| Mon, 10-01-2007 - 8:02am |
Before I explain the problem, let me provide you all with some background information.
| Mon, 10-01-2007 - 8:02am |
Before I explain the problem, let me provide you all with some background information.
Oh dear. Well, her daughter cannot dictate who her mom sees. I think you should just be patient and let it all work out. I don't think you should try too hard with the daughter. She will like you in time and see that she cannot upset you or tell her mom who to date.
I think if I was broken up with someone I would not allow my daughter to see the old boyfriend and then come back and say all that about the new one and never mind after you made such an attempt to like her. It just doesn't sound right or fair. But then I have never had a teenage daughter and I have never let my son have a relationship with anyone I have dated (he can meet them but they do not ever spend any time together except to have dinner) so maybe there is something I am overlooking or not understanding?
There really isn't anything you CAN do here except to be patient and control what you do and not let all that bother you. Try not to take it personally. The daughter does have a relationship with that man - and in time you are not going to be such a hot issue and they will talk about something else. Maybe the mom can talk to her about not comparing or not talking about you?
Maybe the time wasn't right. At nine years old, they don't know what they want and just because momma thinks she's ready, the child may not feel that way. I think patience would be appropriate. And time also. Maybe just back off from the child (not the mom) and let her approach mom as to why you're not doing things with her anymore. Let her come to you.
sharon
Let's look at this through Suzy's eyes.
A couple of things leap out for me.
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