I think that if I really wanted to attend an adult event where children were not invited, I would get a sitter.
It sounds, though, like this is not the only event/issue that is getting you upset. Do you feel he is not at all accepting of your kids? Or is this a one time only with most of it being good?
Oh yeah TOTALLY and you know what I did? Dump their butts. And NO, I didn't do it right away, but I did do it when I went out with them for some time and realized that my kids were a damper for them. I dated a guy that was totally hooked to the hip with his guy and I really felt out of place and his friends made me feel out of place. I don't know what to tell you, but I can say, you aren't feeling sorry for yourself, your being hurt and to me, this guy seems selfish and inconsiderate AND to top it off I've met guys that are much sweeter and open to a woman with children. Unfortunately, although I know them, they aren't my types otherwise. And the guys I do know aren't lengthy material either.
I agree. I understood her to mean that even when she could get a sitter they aren't inviting her. Maybe I'm wrong, but I wouldn't want to have kids at an adult affair either.
My best friend doesn't always invite me to stuff just because I am single--almost all of her other friends are part of a couple and she thinks I would feel left out either way--she may be right but it hurts a little...as for a boyfriend not so much.
I just wanted to chime in and say that I am someone who WANTS to be invited even when the host knows I probably cant make it because I have my kid that night. There are lots of people in my life who still toss invites kinda hoping I can find a sitter and then they understand if I cant. I just think it would be reassuring for you to be invited even if he knows you wont be able to make it because it shows that if he had a choice, he would rather spend that time with you. Hope things have blown over a bit and that you are feeling more "up" about things.
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I think that if I really wanted to attend an adult event where children were not invited, I would get a sitter.
It sounds, though, like this is not the only event/issue that is getting you upset. Do you feel he is not at all accepting of your kids? Or is this a one time only with most of it being good?
I entertained a lot more before my kids arrived.
My best friend doesn't always invite me to stuff just because I am single--almost all of her other friends are part of a couple and she thinks I would feel left out either way--she may be right but it hurts a little...as for a boyfriend not so much.
April
I absolutely understand how you are feeling.
Is it that maybe
Hope things have blown over a bit and that you are feeling more "up" about things.