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| Fri, 03-28-2008 - 1:46pm |
....or chocolate or a really great girls night out. Any takers?
I really don't want to get into the details as they are exhausting but I had the biggest argument with BE last night and we are not talking. It had nothing to do with his daughter or her kids. I had last night planned with him and when he suggested staying out till 11pm socializing instead of the "in time" I had asked for I snapped. He claims I made a scene and embarrassed him. He is re-thinking being with me because he feels I am too reactive. I am re-thinking the relationship too because I feel that he triggers me- I get hurt and dissappointed which triggers a snap reaction- and he hates that. I don't know becasue I feel justified in beibg let down.
He asked if I wanted to take some "time out" from each other and

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OK Chocolate in a big pink belly form. I dont know about you but puppies make my heart melt...on with my not so eliquent words of advice OB1...It sounds like you both had a
Thank you, Ali.
It sucks having to take "time off" when it comes after a blow up. It just feels awful and I wish we would not do this to each other but we do. It's becoame a pattern- we go along soooo great and love gets deeper and feeling more and more secure and then Wham!...one or both of us do something to create a fight.
I'm going to up the ante on his "night or two off from each other" and make it as long as I want..it's not just up to him. I need to get my head clear and think about the things that you mention- is this how I want to feel in 5 years, 10 years- longer? Is there a better way we can solve our problems instead of this? I'm not sure yet..
I appreciate your hugs and support. Thanks for bein' there..
PS- thank GOD for disc golf buddies. I called them last night and we're on for a couple rounds later this afternoon. I NEED the companionship and outlet :o)
Awwwwww.......that was so nice :o)
OK so when we go out on the town can we bring that little cutie???? I so want to hug him! I adore puppies. I feel like they are great therapy. That made me smile......
You're right about letting things cool off. I used to be the type to rush in and try to fix things because the feeling of having someone i love mad at me would toment me- but now I am realizing that my issues and point are just as valid- so why should I call him? He can call me and then I will decide of I am ready to even talk yet.
I WANT that puppy------I can almost smell his puppy breath from here....sigh*
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April
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Just allow yourself time and space to rest. I hope things will get clearer for you (and BE) in the meantime, and then you can discuss things again.
I hope the chocolate puppy of Mom-Star gave you the same warm snugglies that it gave me! Great puppy photo!!! Mine's not chocolate... but it was our dog's first experience with snow in 2004. :-)
Hugs,
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Aw Shrimps! I so needed the Snowface picture...thank you for that, it's equivalnt to a warm hug...he is adorable!
I just don't know. I hate the cooling off period. Especially when I feel misuderstood. I feel like if he only knew why I reacted and was willing to understand. We'll see. I'll take the time and think- but dang, thinking can be so draining!
I often wish that my relationship had that easy going, drama free love you have with Hiker. I wonder about this and hear the words in my head- the wisdom from this board and the consencus- Love should not be this hard.
Sigh-
thanks
You're right- it's NOT just up to him.
Thanks, April...
I will take the weekend, who knows maybe a week just to clear my head. I do need to be renewed and refreshed, to step away from the heavinness and get some perspecitve.
I will have fun getting out this afternoon- are you the one who said you have played dg before and liked it?
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