could use a hug

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could use a hug
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Fri, 03-28-2008 - 1:46pm

....or chocolate or a really great girls night out. Any takers?


I really don't want to get into the details as they are exhausting but I had the biggest argument with BE last night and we are not talking. It had nothing to do with his daughter or her kids. I had last night planned with him and when he suggested staying out till 11pm socializing instead of the "in time" I had asked for I snapped. He claims I made a scene and embarrassed him. He is re-thinking being with me because he feels I am too reactive. I am re-thinking the relationship too because I feel that he triggers me- I get hurt and dissappointed which triggers a snap reaction- and he hates that. I don't know becasue I feel justified in beibg let down.


He asked if I wanted to take some "time out" from each other and

~Pacific~

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 12:47pm

Thanks for the link, Steph- I just checked it out and it looks like a place I might bew able to get some further insight from!

~Pacific~
~Pacific~
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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 12:52pm

~Pacific~
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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 12:54pm
I think you are VERY smart for going!! and I would love to hear about your experience!!
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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 12:55pm
Thoughts are with you Pac. This board would not be the same without you and we are all more than glad to be there for you in whatever decision you make.
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 1:03pm

This board would not be the same without you


~Pacific~
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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 2:40pm

Going to an alanon meeting will do you good.

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 8:32pm

Alanon?

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 8:45pm

I agree that Alanon is a lifesaver for so many. But - I couldnt grasp it. & here is why ... & beleive me, i have debated this (well, not debate - but talked about it a lot in the past) - but i feel like for SOME people, "leaving it all up to God" (hello, control freak here, lol - so THAT was SO hard for me - but i know it was the right thing to do as i could not control him).

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Wed, 04-02-2008 - 2:53am

Alanon is a great idea. I didn't go to Alanon... but i went to a faith based recovery group called Recover For The City... I started going when I was married to an addict/alcoholic in 2004... I continued going for 3 1/2 years. I made many good life lasting friendships.... I met many people who walked the same walk.. who understood me and I'm so thankful for those meetings. I found truth... A truth that will last a lifetime... something that no one can take away from me ever... not a man and not the troubles of this world. I learned how to define myself... I learned how to accept the good, bad and ugly about myself... and found that there are a lot more good in me than bad or ugly. I can laugh now at my mistake...I am not afraid. I'm not perfect but I know that i am accepted by a higher power.


For me, turning everything over to a higher power was the only thing left to try.... Thick head... yah, i know all about that.... My prayer for

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 04-02-2008 - 11:59am

.... My prayer for

~Pacific~

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