could use a hug

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Registered: 08-08-2007
could use a hug
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Fri, 03-28-2008 - 1:46pm

....or chocolate or a really great girls night out. Any takers?


I really don't want to get into the details as they are exhausting but I had the biggest argument with BE last night and we are not talking. It had nothing to do with his daughter or her kids. I had last night planned with him and when he suggested staying out till 11pm socializing instead of the "in time" I had asked for I snapped. He claims I made a scene and embarrassed him. He is re-thinking being with me because he feels I am too reactive. I am re-thinking the relationship too because I feel that he triggers me- I get hurt and dissappointed which triggers a snap reaction- and he hates that. I don't know becasue I feel justified in beibg let down.


He asked if I wanted to take some "time out" from each other and

~Pacific~

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2007
Wed, 04-02-2008 - 8:34pm

Pac,


I so wish we could all be there for real... hugs, drinks, and chocolate are so much better in person.

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 8:21am

Hi Pac,


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Registered: 08-08-2007
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 1:02pm

Hey Dance-


I'm glad to "see" you! Thank you for your input. No, I would never get mad at anyone for expressing their concern or opinion to me. In fact I value it very, very much. Sometimes we need a kick in the pants or a smack wake up call. A lot of you here have BTDT and shed some incredibly insightful light on what needs to be seen.


I answered rlch in her post this morning, if you want to see how things went last night. I did not say good bye per se but we both redefined our needs and left with an understanding.


It's so kind of you to say those things about me and how

~Pacific~

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