Couple steps forward, a step back

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Couple steps forward, a step back
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Thu, 01-17-2008 - 12:43pm

OK CNDG (Cute Newly Divorced Gal) told me she wants to step back from the relationship and

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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 10:23am

I love CNDG !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I soo like what she wrote there.


and I like your blog too.. But somehow I am a bit more touched by what she wrote..

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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 1:12pm

Two steps forward.

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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 5:08pm

God's way of telling me that "Here, here is what you are seeking


So it's your destiny to be together, and God blesses your spiritual-erotic union.

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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 11:49pm

Mark,


She does sound like an amazing woman, and you knew that she might need more time to heal when you went into things with her.


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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 11:48am

Hey Mark!


I was glad to see that you and CNDG had a great conversation, and are perhaps on the path together again? I could tell from your post that you again got to be on cloud nine with her. Yes!


How did the weekend go?


~Pacific~
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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 1:57pm

I had an AMAZING weekend!

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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 2:00pm
That is so AWESOME MARK! Way to go! You sound soooo happy, as if your about to BURST and the energy from you is GYNORMOUS! You deserve this so much and I'm so happy for you!
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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 3:26pm

This post sounds really good. You know the old cliche that when you love someone, let them go, if they don't return they were never yours? Well, CNDG needed some breathing room, a bit more space, you gave it and she didn't disappear. All very good. She is so newly divorced that I know you realize she will get freaky now and then as she grows into the new, not married single person she is becoming.

When M and I first started dating he was very open about expecting me to need time before I committed myself to someone else, especially since I had come out of a life long relationship. He still is understanding as I work my way through it, as I am understanding of his missteps, he had been married 15 years. It takes time to become comfortable with being an independent single when one 's identity has been as one half of a couple for a long time. CNDG will need time to work through all that.

And I'm glad to see that you found you could get past your preconceived ideas about physical type. I gave M a chance and have realized that my enjoyment of the physical intimacy side is probably 90% what is going on in my own head. I love this guy, he makes sure I know he adores me, we are friends, we can talk about anything, he gives me my space so I can be very free to be myself. And like you, M's language of love is touch and mine is like CNDG, quality time. Works for us.

QueenBun

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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 4:04pm

Thanks Queenbun for sharing your experience with M.

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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 4:23pm
It is good that you are so patient. That was one thing that drove me crazy with MA - he was not patient and was so pushy. I am keeping fingers crossed for you - it was nice that you two had that fun party and so much time over the weekend.