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Court in the AM & everyone was right ...
| Wed, 01-31-2007 - 9:11am |
X never did go see the Pysc (as far as I know, b/c the guy said he would notify me IF X called him .... AND,


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Rebecca, HUGS to you! I hope everything goes well, keep us updated!
I am in disbelief at what a jerk he is to and around Averey. Not getting along with your ex is one thing, but the way he behaves around her makes me SO mad!
I really wish the best for you, and especially for that sweet little girl! No wonder she doesn't want you to date if she thinks all men behave like HIM!
Moody, fired up
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Wow, what a jerk!!!
I will tell you something a bailiff said to me after one of my custody hearing dates. The ex was a jerk and got angry in the courtroom. The bailiff stopped me as I was leaving (after I won) and said to me in private, "Don't worry. He will act like in front of any judge he meets. You keep your cool and you will win every time." He was right. Your ex won't ever change. These judges have seen it 100's of times. You will have to jump through the hoops and spend a crazy amount of money, but it will all work out in your favor eventually.
I am starting to think he does need supervised visits if his comments are so nasty. My ex will never win any parenting prizes, but he would not be hostile if DS whispered anything to me. Not blatantly hostile. He does his emotional damage quietly.
OMGoodness R!!! Your exh gets the Jerk of the Year award. He is so emotionally immature and a bully to boot.
I agree with fivesense and with what you were saying about getting there 15 min early - all I can say is that I wish you luck!! It doesn't sound like you will solve this in one go.
But I do see that you have to stand up to him and put him in his place. Best to stand your ground now and keep him from learning that this is okay. I wish you strength, wisdom and perseverance. And I do know that you will have those.
It could very well be that this anger will never leave him. Have you thought of counseling? The only reason I say this is because maybe you can get some good ideas of how to handle him and his actions - and that would make you look better. I do know that time and money are an issue.
I also worry he might try to cause you some kind of physical harm. Do be careful, okay?
Thast EXACTLY what he is ... a bully.
I have tried everythign - & i DO mean everything, from standing up to him, to not answering his calls when i know he is crazy & he wants to see dd, to having a Gaurdian ad Litum appointed, to seeing my own therapist, to seeing if we could do co-parenting counseling together, to asking the court to appt him to HAVE to see a co-parenting counselor (this is the current order he is refusing to follow), to asking the courts if they can mandate him to be in therapy, to be on meds (he has major depression & I am POSITIVE he is BiPolar), to having dd in counseling ... I could go on & on. Even being NICE to him - & I mean I am that more than anything, for dd's sake. eg: he threw his back out last week, *I* went to pick up his scripts & he gave me his cc to get him a heating pad. I got him & Ave dinner one nite she was there.
I have asked for supervised visits more than once. I did get them at the beginning ... ONE visit, which was the 1st after a 5 wk RO & he hadnt seen dd (this was May 2005) & that visit ended in the police being called b/c he was out of his mind & woudlnt give dd back after she SNUCK to a phone in his friends house (the "supervisor" was his friend who i THOUGHT i trusted) & begged me to come get her b/c he was scaring by saying mean things about me ... it was a nitemare. Thats when the GAL was involved & she ended up saying "No more supervised visits b/c" ... get this ... "It sets him off too much". SURE ... throw MY kid to the wolves b/c YOU dont want to deal with all this.
& honestly, I dont think anyone DOESNT believe he acts this way. I just havent been able to get anyone to BELEIVE me. I have him on tape threatening to "burn the house down with me in it" & admitting to threats to kill me in the past. THAT did nothing in the old family court judges eyes as to settlement.
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