Crazy about him but can I really do this

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Registered: 07-06-2008
Crazy about him but can I really do this
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Sun, 07-13-2008 - 6:50pm

Hello ladies - Another freak out with my sorta boyfriend where i got to see him yesterday afternoon for a couple of hours and then went to my friend's to get ready to go out (we have not had a kid-less night out since the fall). Had a great time with the bf and his daughter, but then was pining for him all night. Drank a little, which for me is like truth serum, so I started calling him -LIKE EVERY HOUR - asking him if he was going to be coming out with us (he lives an hour away). Ended up he stayed at home because he had to get up really early the next morning to pick up his daughter.


Anyway, to make a long story short, I was intent on being with him because I miss him - we see each other only every couple of weeks, and when we do get together, it's usually only for the evening and then we have to go. We both have young kids, busy jobs, and we live two hours away from each other. It tough getting any time alone. I want to see him more often and for more than a couple of hours at a time where we're not sleeping (or getting busy). Do I want too much? Am I not supposed to be taking things one day at a time (we've been dating for almost 8 months). What does a relationship entail anyway?

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sun, 07-13-2008 - 7:24pm

It sounds to me like the situation isn't giving you enough of what you want in a relationship, which is TIME with your bf. I know you've put in 8 months with this guy, but the reality is: with young kids and a busy schedule, there's not going to be any change in this routine unless one of you moves to the other's town.

How does he feel about the arrangement? Also, are you one hour or two hours away? You state both in your post.




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Registered: 04-17-2003
Sun, 07-13-2008 - 9:04pm
Do you want too much? Isn't this the guy that has told you he DOESN'T want a relationship? It sounds like you do and are much more attached to him than vice versa. You are setting yourself up for some huge heartache. Find someone who DOES want a relationship, not just sex.
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 07-13-2008 - 11:59pm

I don't know - this to me - sounds like he doesn't want a relationship, doesn't want to make time and lives too far away.

It shouldn't be that hard on you - you sound frustrated and rightfully so. The right person and situation will make you happy.

Find someone closer who wants a relationship with you and who is willing to make time for you!! The fall was a long time ago.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 10:19am

I have to agree with the others.