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Crazy Aggressive Guy!
| Fri, 11-17-2006 - 11:08pm |
The other night as I was leaving work, my brother called me and said "Hey! 'M' is here with me, he wants to buy you a drink. Come join us". I said OK, thinking I hadn't seen M in some time (nice enough guy, but nothing there (for me)). By the time I got there they were both pretty far gone, so I figured I'd hang out and end up taking them both home. As soon as I sat down, M says "Hey, I want to get tickets to a Bob Seger show. Do you want to go with me?" I say sure, sounds like fun. I'm in the mindset of hanging out, going to a show, definately not "dating". After a little while, M leans into me and says "I don't know where this relationship is going, but if we get married I won't take your name. We can do the hyphenated thing". I was so taken off guard, I just laughed it off, chalking it up to silly drunkeness. Later he says "I think your brother would like to have me as a brother-in-law, but no pressure." I said "Is that so..." Again, taken off guard. I took them both home, told them both to call me in the morning if they needed rides to cars (I didn't work the next day). M backed off a little in the car, talking about nothing really, but he did kiss me on the cheek when he left. My brother tells me later that M was talking about me all night before I got there, said "M really digs you". Great. The crazy talk I'm sure was alcohol induced, but I also believe alcohol to be something of a truth serum. My guy friends at work say (in their opinion) I've been on his mind, he's been thinking about me, whatever. So should I figure out a way to bag out of the concert, should I go anyway? He left me a message yesterday saying he wanted to go, and hoped I would really go with him and he'd call me today, but I never heard from him. I'm not anxious to call him to follow up either. I would like to go to the concert, but not if it means I'm engaged when we leave! ha ha Part of me feels like what the heck, give him a chance, maybe there is more to him. My sister-in-law says I should go to the concert because I want to go to the concert, use him basically. I can't do that. But I feel it's ridiculous that I'm thinking I have to tell this guy I have no interest in really dating anyone including him, let alone be joking about being married.
Now that I've said it all, I guess that is a date, isn't it. I guess I shouldn't go. I tend to not see things in the proper light. Last year a guy asked me out, I told my kids I was going to hang out with my friend (they know him). They said "Mommy, that's a date". When I said no, they said "Did he ask you to go? Is he paying for you? Is it only the two of you? That is a date". Very insightful.
I got to rambling here...Concert? Or no concert?
Sheesh
Now that I've said it all, I guess that is a date, isn't it. I guess I shouldn't go. I tend to not see things in the proper light. Last year a guy asked me out, I told my kids I was going to hang out with my friend (they know him). They said "Mommy, that's a date". When I said no, they said "Did he ask you to go? Is he paying for you? Is it only the two of you? That is a date". Very insightful.
I got to rambling here...Concert? Or no concert?
Sheesh

If it's a concert you really want to go to, ask him if you can pay your own way and split the gas and help drive to/from or something. This way, you won't "owe" him anything, and it won't feel like a date. If you were going with a friend who was female it wouldn't feel like a date, right?
I don't see anything wrong with making it clear to him that you aren't interested in dating, but would really like to be friends. Prove this by going to the concert and having a good time. You can joke around with your friends and be pals without dating. It's not using him if you pay your own way and are upfront with him from the begining.
Moody
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I think I would skip it. If he is as into you as it sounds, even if you offered to pay for it, etc., I think he would still feel like he has a shot with you. If you really want to go to the concert, get some other friends and go, but I just don't think it is a good idea for you to go with this guy. Only IMHO, of course!
Good luck with whichever way you go and keep us posted! :)