Damn! Im FORTY! ...

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Damn! Im FORTY! ...
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Wed, 12-05-2007 - 8:47am
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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: rlch
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 9:01am

Thanks everyone. Today is the REAL day. My gf is taking me out to dinner tonite as well. Im going to 500# by the time this week is over! & another really close friend is turning 40 on Dec 26th (we were the last 2 of our college friends) so TWENTY-FOUR of us are meeting in Manhattan on Jan 5th. WHOO! Thats going to be a BLAST. AND, one of our closest friends who's hubby is an admiral in the navy (& SHE is a WILD WOMAN, has gotten the guy in more trouble with his superiors, lol ... the stories i could tell you!) is stationed now in Korea ... he contacted us to tell us that for a Xmas gift for her, he is flying her back to celebrate with us! How cool is THAT???


So, the celebrating will continue! :)


& as an update, the doc called me yesterday & told me he spoke to X's atty finally, in person (they had previously been only leaving messages). He said that the atty "obvioulsy knows how screwed up X is & isnt balking at all, at no visitation" The thing that confused me, pissed me off, whaetver, was that THEY decided NOT to tell him the visits are stopped. Hello? He said the atty would prefer it come from the doc, & the doc said he wont contact him until he hears that he wants to see him. THEN he will be told.

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Registered: 03-19-2004
In reply to: rlch
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 9:08am
Happy Birthday! Wishing you are wonderful day. Be careful on who you choose to be your next's child's father because you will have to deal with him till your child is 18. An acquaintance of mine has two children by different men, both men are jerks by far to say it nicely (no jobs, drinking, abusive, and etc) - makes me wonder why she married them to begin with, goes to show how some women can't be without a man. We owe more respect to ourselves than just settling just to be married and/or have children. We have to think about what happens after the date of marriage and after the birth of the child, not just the moment of what we want, the event. I know women who have ended up with the yoyo's by far and they are still going through a lot of issues with the ex's because of the children. It's not worth it because things don't end when someone gets divorced, they get much worse because of the games people play back and forth, threats, going back to court, and of course the children suffer because they see it all and are stuck in the middle of it. You can always adopt to where you will not have to deal with an ex - sounds much easier to me. I wish you well and have a Wonderful Day!

Anna


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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: rlch
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 9:46am

Hi Anna, maybe you havent seen my LIFE lately. You most certainly DONT have to tell ME about crazy X's. lol

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Registered: 09-25-2004
In reply to: rlch
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 9:56am

Fourty and Fabulous!


Hey what are those blood tests?

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: rlch
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 10:05am

You are so funny with this post - you made my day!!!!!!!

Happy Birthday and welcome to the 40 something club. The funny thing is that I feel younger and happier now that I am 45 more so than any time in my 20s. I have more to celebrate I think.

I can relate to how you feel about wanting another baby because when I was 39 turning 40 I was thinking the same things. That I wanted the loving supportive husband and more children - I never wanted to be a divorced single mom who had to deal with a bad marriage. And now 5 years later I am still single. But now I am happy and feel grateful for this experience because it has taught me so much. And I am okay with the fact that it turned out to be me and DS and no other kids. It just took me a bit of time to get to this.

The thing is, that if you meet the right person, there are many options for children. You know you can still be fertile on your own or get the donor eggs and IV or adoption or maybe he will have children that desperately need a stable mom. You know too that if you don't find him you still have the options of having one on your own and for adoption, too. And you do have time.

I feel you have given yourself the best birthday present - you have put your nasty exh in a corral where he can chill and either get his life together and be a part of Ave's life or stay away with his bad toxic self - you have more control now. And you have a great job and DD and it sounds like great friends. Plus a good head on your shoulders.

So it is all good - and we enjoy you here so much. You have really brought a great perspective to us with the issue of alcohol and we are all so lucky for this and all of your funny stories and pictures.

Best best birthday wishes!! :-)

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Registered: 11-03-2003
In reply to: rlch
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 12:04pm

where my fertility is. I figured if it told me my eggs were old


How can a blood test determine genetic anomalies inside your ova?

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: rlch
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 12:27pm

HSG, E2 (estrodial) & inhibbin B are what fertility docs draw to see your EGG QUALITY. How likley you are to conceive. Basically, your "egg age".


In other words, if your numbers arent good, than the likelihood of your conceiveing with or without fertility meds, is less than if your numbers ARE good. For ME, if i were to try to get pg at SOME point, i woudlnt do fertility meds (b/c i wouldnt want to change multiples, OR push fate that much) ... & i wouldnt go so far as IVF. I would just get inseminated (IUI) with donor sperm. Sort of lower tech, & if it workds, great. If not, it wasnt meant to be.


I wanted to KNOW the egg quality b/c if they are "old", then I wouldnt even push the issue & i would just know, Im done.

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In reply to: rlch
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 12:28pm
Hey, check under Soonees post, i answered there.

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In reply to: rlch
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 12:30pm

Yep, best bday gift ... not thinking about X!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: rlch
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 1:21pm
Oh wow - a 46 year old? That is encouraging for you!! Where there any complications because of age? See - you have 6 years ;-)

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