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dance recital and OW
| Sun, 06-15-2008 - 7:11pm |
So today D4 had her big dance recital. Of course X was late, but at least he showed up with D4 in plenty of time for me to get her ready- costume, hair and make-up. But of course he did not buy tickets ahead of time as I forewarned him he would need to, they were sold out. Apparently he was able to scrape together some tickets from other parents who had some extras. I had initially offered mine seeing as it looked like it would only be X and S17 and I saw the Thurs performance. Then I find out from D4, that her grandparents and OW are also coming. Then X sends S17 to take me up on using my ticket, uh no, not for OW, who as far as I'm concerned should not even be there.
D4 did well, had a ton of fun, and when I went out at intermission to get her changed back into her street clothes, there is her father and OW outside in the 100+ heat with D4, still in costume, make-up, and with her backpack which has my cell phone, make-up, a book I just started reading and another change of clothes for D4.I insist he give her back to me and the back pack. He makes a fuss and tells me I can trust him to give the backpack and costume back. Uh- no, I can't.Think I've learned that on the hard way.
While helping D4 change she tells me she has a play date set up with P, a little girl from her school. OW set it up. What!? So is it me, or would it bug anyone else if the person who deliberately targeted your marriage for destruction- never mind I'm better off without PsychoBoy, it is the principle of the thing- is playing mom for your 4 yr old.? It is not like OW and this other mom knew each other prior to P's Bday party, held on X's weekend. Ideas please on letting go of this. I'm not insecure in my relationship with my daughter, it is OW's attitude that she has replaced me in every way, including as my child's parent. They are not married so she is just the GF.
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D4 did well, had a ton of fun, and when I went out at intermission to get her changed back into her street clothes, there is her father and OW outside in the 100+ heat with D4, still in costume, make-up, and with her backpack which has my cell phone, make-up, a book I just started reading and another change of clothes for D4.I insist he give her back to me and the back pack. He makes a fuss and tells me I can trust him to give the backpack and costume back. Uh- no, I can't.Think I've learned that on the hard way.
While helping D4 change she tells me she has a play date set up with P, a little girl from her school. OW set it up. What!? So is it me, or would it bug anyone else if the person who deliberately targeted your marriage for destruction- never mind I'm better off without PsychoBoy, it is the principle of the thing- is playing mom for your 4 yr old.? It is not like OW and this other mom knew each other prior to P's Bday party, held on X's weekend. Ideas please on letting go of this. I'm not insecure in my relationship with my daughter, it is OW's attitude that she has replaced me in every way, including as my child's parent. They are not married so she is just the GF.
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"I am thrilled to be rid of my ex - been there bought the t-shirt - she can have him. But she cannot have my children."
Hit the nail on the head and drove it home with that comment. It is very difficult to maintain a distance when this other person just doesn't have the sense, the class, the empathy, to stay out of parenting issues with their BF/GF's kids. We see that issue from the other side once in a while here when we have posts about the BF/GF getting too involved in parenting decisions.
At least M and I see this issue the same way. He understood completely my concern about PB allowing me the privilege of getting D4 into her costume and doing her hair and make-up "That is a Mom thing, surely your X sees that." (That is what I was afraid of, he'd get great pleasure out of denying me that experience and giving it to OW-but it all worked out since I planned ahead) M's X has no idea how good she has it.
Can totally relate on the hair-do thing. OW had the nerve to CUT D4's hair once. She did a horrible job, I took a picture of it, sent it to PB with the request that he let me take care of her haircuts since his hair dresser obviously does not do as good a job with kids. I didn't even hint I knew it was OW.
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"Maybe we can hire someone to seduce him away from OW? It couldn't be hard; it's in his character to cheat."
LOL M suggested that last night. PsychoBoy never goes after women, they have to pursue him. How about a mid 30's OB/GYN nurse who wants to spend a year or so in the desert, kind of combat duty? Get some great dinners, a vacation or 2 at 4star properties and do a good deed by getting rid of OW. But as soon as this person were to relieve herself of the crazy man, OW would boomerang right back. Ah well, the reality is I wouldn't wish my X on ANYONE, so there goes that idea, LOL.
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She CUT you daughter's hair?
Oh my goodness - I would just be so mad if this happened:
"OW had the nerve to CUT D4's hair once. She did a horrible job, I took a picture of it, sent it to PB with the request that he let me take care of her haircuts since his hair dresser obviously does not do as good a job with kids. I didn't even hint I knew it was OW."
You handled that so well - the part about "his hair dresser and kids" was just splendid if not a little humorous (way after the fact now of course). And I can TOTALLY understand how you would want the privilege to put her in that beautiful outfit and do her hair and makeup - this is what being a mom is all about. I am sure that as DD4 gets older she will not want OW doing things like this, or the haircut, and it will get easier for you.
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