Dare to take a risk?
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| Mon, 11-14-2005 - 1:26pm |
i have a friend who has been a friend for 15 years. We've grown up together. for about 6 to 9 months now, he has been doing things that have been questionable in my assessment of being friends. every time I see him, he hugs me, which isn't too odd, though the hugs now include him running has hand(s) across my back or down my shoulder. a good number of months ago he did some work on my house for free. I ended up sending him a thank you card and money for taking time out of his daily schedule to work for me. the next time I saw him, he hugged me picking me up off the ground and then nuzzled his nose into my hair and kissed my ear. he's very good to my child, playing with him and letting him sit with him and his nephews in church. we talk some, but never pay too much attention to each other that would be noticeable. There are the long stares from across the room, though, where we catch each other's eye and hold it. I sent him a bday card a couple weeks ago and this past weekend, he thanked me for it. Hugged me and once again, kissed me right above the ear this time.
I don't want to ruin a perfectly good friendship thinking he might be interested in me and doing something stupid like asking him to dinner. But with the signs that he has been giving, I'm not 100% he wants to be just friends. He is younger than I am, which is part of the problem. His family and mine have been friends for a long time now. When is it okay to take the risk and not wait for him any more? Is it just being friendly or is there something more? I don't want to miss out on something because I'm too scared to make the first move. But what if it is the wrong move?

Let it take its own course.
In my opinion you would jeopardize what you have or what you could have by trying to be the one to push it forward.
For right now, enjoy! Do not worry where it is going. Encourage his advances if you choose. But if they become sexual then you have to talk.
Keep us posted. I am sure the others here will help, too.
If you're interested back, then you need to send him those signals.
Ok I can't tell you what to do but I'll tell you what I'm dealing with. 1. I have been in relationships with good friends before and we're friends now. I don't know if I would make the first move but I don't think it's something to be opposed to.
Presently I'm seeing a guy who was a really close friend of mine before we started seeing each other. He was very much like your friend is with you, with me. I never saw anything weird about it though until one night we were kissing on the couch. Anyway we're seeing each other now and it's going alright. The thing that has come in handy is when I'm neurotic (all my friends now I can be) he doesn't go (omg this woman is a wack job) he's understanding because he knows how I can be.