Darn one down and dunno about the other

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Darn one down and dunno about the other
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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 1:44am

Date with Jane was nice. She took me to this nice sushi place. The sushi was amazingly good. And the we double dated with my co-worker who has been doing eHarmony at a comedy club where he got free tickets. I thought the acts were mildly amusing and Jane enjoyed it more. She and my co-worker's date seemed to bond well. I did not feel any real chemistry even though we held hands again and hugged. I thought I would focus on enjoying her but I did not feel it. She works when she does not have her DD11 and is off when she has her. So next time we'll be doing the shared daughter date sometime... I'll do this for a couple of more times. I wish I can feel something more because she is a terrific woman.

I just an email from Lynn. "I apologize, but I'm feeling the desire/need to pull back. I'm not sure if it's a doubt about it being a good match, or if it's just feeling too intense and rushed. Maybe I just need to think about it for a little while. I know you were feeling "hopeful", so I'm sorry." I just made reservations for a date on Saturday. I WAS looking forward to it. I sent her an email saying "no worries" and that we can still do things or talk as friends without expectations but don't really think she is going to come back. I got that she was more closed than Cindy or Jane but she wanted to be more open as like CNDG so I was willing to be patient. I was disappointed but like I said it's all self selecting and it is meant to be then it'll happen.

Now no date for Saturday. :-(. Cindy is out of town this weekend.





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 12:48pm

Well the only activity I can think of to foster chemistry is to make out with her :-P ... THAT is the deciding and defining activity for chemistry from my experience.


Mark who is trying to imagine making out with a 51 yr old woman with (teeth) braces





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 1:03pm

Now you are making me blush.

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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 1:31pm

Mark-


It is too bad about Lynn. But it does look like you're on a roll and there are a lot of new prosects on the horizon! You are taking the "Dating Guru" crown right now, being so open and willing and plentiful in your dates.


Regarding Lynn, if you like her I would advise strongly to not contact her again at all until she contacts you. I'm saying that out of experience. I've dated men in the past whom I really felt a connectiion with but their desire and intensity and affection was too much too soon. One time in particular I told the guy "I like you..but I need some time.


I remember directly quoting to him the Red Hot Chili Peppers Soul to Squeeze "Where I go I just dont know, I got to, got to, gotta take it slow. When I find my piece of mind, Im gonna give you some of my good time".....


LOL! Well it was the 90s! Anyway, what made the world of difference is that he did go away. He did not call me or anything, he simply respected my space. It made me want him, lol! I was like "hey, he's pretty confidant and he respects my space..cool!" So I called HIM after about a week or so. Long story short I married the guy for 12 years. Yep, I'm talkin about my ex. Although we did not last, the begining was good because of the space he grated me. Thats what made me contact him again.


I don't know who she is but the right one for you

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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 1:43pm

You quoted the Chili Peppers????


God, you crack me up!!!


Moon~who now has THAT song playing over and over and over in her head :-)

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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 1:43pm

msmsavannah,

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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 1:45pm

I'm glad her reply helped you feel better about the situation.


You know - at least she didn't ghost on you, right?

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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 1:47pm

You quoted the Chili Peppers????


Ya, deep, huh? What was funny is that he goes "isn't that chili peppers song? I think I get the message." LOL!

~Pacific~
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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 4:04pm
My insurance doesn't cover braces period.so mine are out of pocket.
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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 4:56pm

Thanks for the advice Pacsun.

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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 5:07pm

who can be impatient for he is not getting any younger


That was my Grandpa's Mantra for both of his LTR's!

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