Darn one down and dunno about the other

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Darn one down and dunno about the other
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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 1:44am

Date with Jane was nice. She took me to this nice sushi place. The sushi was amazingly good. And the we double dated with my co-worker who has been doing eHarmony at a comedy club where he got free tickets. I thought the acts were mildly amusing and Jane enjoyed it more. She and my co-worker's date seemed to bond well. I did not feel any real chemistry even though we held hands again and hugged. I thought I would focus on enjoying her but I did not feel it. She works when she does not have her DD11 and is off when she has her. So next time we'll be doing the shared daughter date sometime... I'll do this for a couple of more times. I wish I can feel something more because she is a terrific woman.

I just an email from Lynn. "I apologize, but I'm feeling the desire/need to pull back. I'm not sure if it's a doubt about it being a good match, or if it's just feeling too intense and rushed. Maybe I just need to think about it for a little while. I know you were feeling "hopeful", so I'm sorry." I just made reservations for a date on Saturday. I WAS looking forward to it. I sent her an email saying "no worries" and that we can still do things or talk as friends without expectations but don't really think she is going to come back. I got that she was more closed than Cindy or Jane but she wanted to be more open as like CNDG so I was willing to be patient. I was disappointed but like I said it's all self selecting and it is meant to be then it'll happen.

Now no date for Saturday. :-(. Cindy is out of town this weekend.





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 5:12pm

Need time?

~Pacific~
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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 5:26pm

I surely don't want to seem like I'm jumping on you here Mark, but I have to ask...


Even though I just sent email telling her that I'll be calling her, I won't.


Why would you say you will call her, when you have no intention of doing so? Isn't that just the kind of thing you see some of the women talking about here on the board at times? The way men can say one thing but don't follow through and do what they say, and how frustrating that is?? And isn't that not being honest?


I'm just curious, because it doesn't seem like You to say something without meaning it. And I'm wondering if this is just something men do (without trying to clump the sexes together).


~shrimpy

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 5:35pm

I don't want to answer for Mark but it might be because I went off on my tyrant about how intensity and too much at once scares women off. He might have thought about that (after sending the email).


Pacific...hoping I was not out of line or steering anyone away from what is right... as if I am the poster girl for healthy relationships lol.

~Pacific~
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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 6:01pm

Yeah, I want to draw upon the wisdom and experience of PacSun who would advise not to contact Lynn.


I did not say *when* I'll be calling her.

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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 6:15pm

Mark,


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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 6:26pm

I agree to a point about CNDG.

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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 6:50pm

I hope my dating aura envelops all of you who are dateless and wanting a date.


I wonder how much of a challenge it is for women to ask the man out?


Mark who plans to workout more and rent some videos this weekend since he has NO dates lined up

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Fri, 05-02-2008 - 6:34pm

Hey Mark, what happened to runner? She sounded so cool. Are you still going to see her?


Laurie

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Fri, 05-02-2008 - 6:48pm

hey Pacific, I quoted Hard to Concentrate to my ex boyfriend. Put it on his computer desktop for him to listen to. Hows that for forward. BTW it wasnt what ended our relationship. That was a whole other story.


Lots of good songs out there to say what you mean. Considering sending Luna by Smashing Pumpkins to my current love. I havent told him that (love part) yet but Luna would surely do it.


Sorry Mark to be off topic.


Laurie

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Fri, 05-02-2008 - 7:35pm

Cindy is out visiting her grandchild this weekend.