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Thu, 05-24-2007 - 10:08am

What did I say I'd call him- Ben? LOL!


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In reply to: cl_alison
Thu, 05-24-2007 - 10:52am

I would just try to keep an open mind and try not to think about it until you have dated him a few more times. Then, like in my own thread, I guess I would start wondering where this may lead and where the potential problems may be about getting hurt and involving others.

I think it is great that you are setting the boundaries and you will notice if he sticks around to accept them or not. When M asked me to stop dating, I didn't want to, but after a few dates with other people, I found myself wishing he was around and not the comb-over across from me.

He's open with you, so be open with him. Let him know that you do not wish to get seriously involved at this point KNOWING that he maybe leaving. That you just want to get know him, enjoy his company and down the line you both can maybe get back to the discussion of "Where it's going? concern? and what the real possibilities are of him being stationed in your area." Him not living in your area is definitely a valid concern, but as far as I know, he should know PRETTY soon if he is going to be stationed their or not. Most military already have their papers, but his might come in June/July. Rotation date is September.

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Registered: 02-08-2006
In reply to: cl_alison
Thu, 05-24-2007 - 12:27pm

Hahahaha- I am a Pisces, and since funnyguy and I share a birthday, he is too....

We are a pretty emotional lot in general, but on the plus side, very loyal!

I like that you're setting boundaries, and if he isn't right for you, so be it.

Keep on truckin', and naturally we want updates!

Moody, swimming along


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Registered: 09-01-2006
In reply to: cl_alison
Thu, 05-24-2007 - 3:14pm

I'm a Pisces too - emotional is right - we wear our hearts on our sleeves.

I like the advice you have so far ....give it some time and let him know your concerns about the possibility of him leaving...

Good luck!

Rose

Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: cl_alison
Thu, 05-24-2007 - 6:35pm

I agree with your assessment. I would not go exclusive with this one yet. And it is good that you are being upfront about that and setting a boundary. It would bother me a lot that he is is only there for training - because they don't have too much say in where they end up. Do you have any new prospects?

It is great to see you are getting so much interest and so many new dates!!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: cl_alison
Fri, 05-25-2007 - 12:45am

Well- I think he's solved the dilemma for me: after chatting a bit on msn tonight, he admitted that he had too hard of a time dating me if I'm dating others and just wants to hang out as friends.


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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: cl_alison
Fri, 05-25-2007 - 8:25am
You are having fun - my my - you surely have a lot of attention and a busy "date card" - keep us posted on the Frenchman!!
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In reply to: cl_alison
Sat, 05-26-2007 - 2:19pm

Well- today the boy and I are heading to see Pirates, and Ben is going to join us.


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