Date #3 with Fireman
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| Wed, 05-09-2007 - 9:45pm |
Okay. My last entry was that I had 2 dates in one day (yesterday) with Fireman. I had so so so much fun with him. But as you know from the entry there I saw him on match later on today. My heart sank but I also said that doesn't mean anything at this point and it is early - maybe he will call for the weekend. I mean, I was on match, too, mostly to delete the winks that appeared in my email and to see if he was there - LOL!!
I decided to send a note saying thank you and that I thought he was fun and the music was great. Stay in the game and reassure that I had a good time and appreciated everything.
Okay- so he calls when I am blabbing my OLD experience to an old friend who used to do OLD at the same time as me a few years back. So it goes to voice mail and then I get his message and call him back.
He told me about his day and then we talked about our evening. I said he is fun - because he is - he is cute how he dances in his seat (but I didn't say that!)! And the concert was great because the music was so good and you could still hear each other talk to make comments and stuff. He was thrilled that I am into live music and I told him of the places I had been.
He mentioned there is a neat place near my house that his friends mentioned for live music. And then asked if I want to go on Friday. Of course I do! So now we have another date.
He said he will call me from work tomorrow and that I could stop by the fire station if I like and even bring DS to show him the trucks. WOW! (But you know we will wait a bit on that - as we have all discussed here before about waiting to introduce the kids.)
He also asked me about my day and I explained that I had a good one. Made sure I mentioned that I cooked a good dinner and that DS and I walked the dogs.
And so my dear readers and fellow board members, I am happy. But scared, too. My poor heart doesn't want anymore rollercoasters. Although I know that every relationship is a risk and it is better to take a risk than none at all. And I have healed pretty well since all of my previous escapades. LOL!!

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Just thinking how funny, and cool, it is how you can really get "involved" in peoples' lives, people that you don't know in real life, that live on the other side of the world. I was thinking this because I realised hearing this story about Fireman has really put a smile on my face.
Judy, you have always been there to help us all, and I always thought how selfless you are. As we have all got ourselves more and more sorted out, some of us starting new relationships, I had always seen you as someone who had such a full and exciting life, and honestly thought you would never get excited about a date! But you have proved me wrong, and I am really glad that your life has taken this new exciting turn! I bet Alison must be thrilled that she encouraged you to get back into OLD.
Whatever happens, I am so pleased that you are enjoying this new adventure in your life. It really does make my day!
Enjoy your date on Friday night - I KNOW you will ;o)
Clem xx
Stephanie
Sounds great so far!!!! Maybe he was on Match for the same reason as you~to check his e-mail/winks and delete them and to check and see if YOU were on-line! It's possible!
Fingers crossed for you~sounds promising!!!
~Dani~
Thanks, Dani. I am TRYING to keep a cool head. Easier said than done! But I am trying to remember that he is not real computer savvy and is sure not a match.com serial dater - he only has a 6 month subscription that runs out this month - never thought he would try such a thing and didn't know what to think about that -we had a discussion about this and what I thought about it. So I think it is a natural curiosity - I mean - he is a guy.
I am not even sure he understands all of today's dating lingo like booty call, hook ups, friends with benefits, taking the profile off, exclusivity. Stuff like that. But oh boy when he tries to go past first base he is going to get a quick and gentle lesson - or just to clarify because I am not a hook up/booty call kind of girl! LOL! I think I might even put that in yesterday's terms - like to play ball past first base we have to be going steady. LOL!!
There were subtle things I liked - how he left his cell phone in the car - now he didn't want to carry it - but I was glad he was not getting text messages and calls when he was with me.
And we joked when I was ordering a beer because I am a real lightweight and said that I can be happy all night with one - he said what happens if you have 2? Do I have to carry you home - or I mean get a taxi? I thought that was cute because he was being a gentleman.
I am still laughing at how he was so surprised by our kiss good night. It was so hot and it threw both of us for a loop. His eyes were so cute.
Goodness, this was hard at 16 and is sure as heck not any easier now - I am a mess! It is so easy to sit here and help everyone else but I am not any different than any of you when it comes to doing it myself. I don't even think I have the nerves of half of us!! And why does Alison have to go on a trip in the middle of this!! Thank goodness all of you are here!!
I agree with all the other posts. It is so nice to see you this way. I know you are going crazy, but it's just so nice to see you this happy, nervous, excited. Like a teenage girl. :)
I so feel for you in regards to being terrified about what is coming now. I think that is why I have sabotoshed a few things in my past because i was terrified of it going wrong, so I would instigate leaving before anyone could hurt me again. I have always talked about being in another relationship, but once you get yourself out their, I want to back peddel and disappear. I have total stage fright. I'll explain it in my updated post of date number two with M. Talk about anxiety attack, but at the same time, not wanting to let go. I am a freak!
Since your posts, everyday I log on several times the day and think of how you are doing. As you know, my best friend Donna is one of the user profiles on here (we met on this board when I was in Germany) and though she hasn't been posting online for several months, I have to talk to her every day per email or phone or both because she is my confidant. Without her helping me or vice versa, we feel a loss. So I know that feeling you have with Alison, because you both met the same way and have that bond.
But know that we are all so very excited for you and everyone of us wishes you so many well wishes in this. I am sending you some extra magic dust. Date three is going to be terrific. Any little ideas of how to catch his attention a little? The first two dates I never think about it, but when I start going out with someone 3+ dates, I do little things that lures them in unknowingly. I think we all think of little ways. Do you have any?
How very cool, Judy!!!! I love it that you are feeling the sparklies, and that it seems to be reciprocated. :-D
I'm thrilled for you that you have this ride starting! I hope it goes on for a long time!
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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I think this is wonderful. I know you're scared, but just let it go and enjoy yourself for as long as you can. Even though he is totally cute and nice and fun, don't think of relationship possibilities, being hurt, or any of that. Just go with it. So is he a good kisser? That tells me alot when a guy kisses well. It tells me he is passionate and that is an amazing thing. Also a sense of humour is sexy. Does he have that? He seems very impressed by you. Have fun!
~Mel~
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