Date 4 goes exclusive

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Date 4 goes exclusive
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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 1:12am

Okay - I have a boyfriend! I want to jump up and down and say that. And at the same time I can't believe it. I really can't.

We had date #4 - it was at a simple bar with a live band. We talked a lot. About what we like to do. What is important to us. The boxes just kept getting checked for how we are similar. He likes to cook healthy and stay in shape. He is nice, considerate and positive. Grew up here like me. Likes the same kinds of vacations. He told me stories about how he handled his jobs last night - and he is indeed a kind soul.

And OMG can he kiss. I guess it is the combo of both of us. He is very affectionate which I adore.

Neither of us wanted the night to end - the time went by so fast. My DS was text messaging me and we both enjoyed that and I answered him. I made sure DS had a great evening at home with a new video game and pizza and other treats so he would feel special.

So, get to the good part.

Okay.

He walks me to my car and we kiss. Time stands still. And my silly knees go weak.

But then he stops and leans up against my car seat and says - I want to know flat out what you want. I said, seriously? He says yes. So I say I want a long term serious relationship. (How's that for spitting it out!?) And he says that is what he wants. So I said that means you don't want to stay online and keep dating? (okay so that is almost sarcastic because we all know how much fun that can be, right? NOT!) And he says no! So we are both delighted that we are on the same page.

He says he wants someone he can do things with and talk to every day. And that is so what I want. He is tired of girls who just want to be friends with benefits.

He cannot believe I am single. But I said I could say the same about him. I explain it has been a long time since I have last dated - I have a kid - it is not like I can be out in the bars or even out much and I work from home. And we both agree it is so hard to find a match at our age and that we both got so lucky.

I cannot believe I am typing this. I just shut off my profiles.

So, I am sure there is more good stuff to come. I feel so so so lucky.

He also made it clear that he does not want more kids- and I said I feel the same way because at 45 I know I am done. And he says he doesn't mind that I have a kid that he enjoys them and knows that mine is a great age. And that all the hard part is done - it is time to enjoy.

Someone needs to pinch me. I want this for everyone here, too.

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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 1:24am

WAHOOOOO!


This sounds like you just opened the farmhouse door, and all the vivid colors of Oz are laid before you.

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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 2:02am
OMG! Well! How long did THAT take!!!!!!!!

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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 7:17am

That is AWESOME!!!!! I'm so happy for you!!!!

~Dani~

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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 7:28am

Yes, Soonee, the exclusive thing means we agreed to just date each other. Your description is right on - to open the farmhouse door of Oz - you are always so good with words!

This was all so unexpected.

We were saying that if we did not use the internet our paths would never cross. And we are surprised at the things that we match on. I just woke up and cannot believe I would find someone my age who is similar and who thinks what makes me is great - and I think that is the ticket. He loves that I am a responsible mom, eat healthy, athletic, my sense of humor, and outdoorsy and likes to ride a bike and go snorkeling and listen to live music and go camping because he likes all those things, too. And he thinks I am really attractive. And we both like to listen to each other's stories.

Now I think the important thing is that we can both relax and just get to know each other. And let things develop slowly - we talked about that too. That we just want to spend time together doing fun things. He can't wait to go on a bike ride with me! And I want him to take me snorkeling to a reef he was talking about that is right on the beach here.

It was fun when he called me from the firehouse. The guys were all impressed with me - it was kind of funny that they were at the place we first met.

I think that all of my bad online dating experiences from before helped me appreciate him. When he sent his first note, it was like one sentence. And while he was good at grammar and spelling, he is not good at typing. So he doesn't type a lot. And I figured that was good because it meant he is not an online serial dater! But I wanted to learn more so I said here is my cell - call if you want to chat more. And that was the key - we just hit it off so well on the phone. Usually the phone call does them in and I avoid the dreaded blind date! But I was impressed at how he eats and cooks so healthy. He was telling me how he makes stuff and I make the same things! And he was impressed at my outdoor camping stories - that is what I am doing with DS. And instead of being put off by my training and racing he was so impressed with it. And he sounded so excited to want to meet me.

He said when he saw my legs he melted. Now that was Alison's idea for me to wear shorts to show them off!! But I did dress a bit conservatively - didn't have a real showy top. Just nice - and he liked that he said. I guess riding and running the 3000 miles over the past 4 or 5 months did me good!!

He comes from a good family, too. His parents were married for 60 years. His dad passed away but his mom is still here. He is the youngest - which is kind of cool because I am the oldest and they say that is good compatibility.

Oh - and he is good at fixing stuff around the house.

And he is a great kisser!!

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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 9:49am

WOOOOHOOOOO!!!!!

You're twitterpated!

I'm thrilled that time and patience and knowing what you wanted paid off for you.

I'm also thrilled that you shared with us!

Keep us posted, and ENJOY!!!

Moody, doing the happy dance for you


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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 10:44am

Woohooo Judy!!!!! When it feels right, it's just SO EASY, is it not?? I hope you have found yourself your "Hiker". Someone who likes you for what you are strong about (and not intimidated even while impressed) and has all the right things in common. Sounds like you're both well on the right track, with talking openly about things. Way to go!!

I'm happy & excited for you!!!!!

~shrimpy

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 1:10pm
Judy, Judy, Judy- You sooo deserve this!
Love Soonee's Oz comment, it is that way when things are right.
Here's to giving OLD one more try, with NO EXPECTATIONS- seems to be when the right guy falls out of the sky.
I especially love that he loves the things about you that you are most proud of yourself for. We all deserve to find that kind of guy.
QB- crossing her fingers that you've found your M, your Hiker, your Mr. Right, Right Now.
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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 7:02pm

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! He sounds absolutely perfect for you and he sounds like an all around down to earth kind of guy. I am soooo happy for you :):):) - I am grinning from ear to ear.

I can't wait to read your posts! There are many of us who will be living vicariously through you!

Rose - who is soooo happy for you!

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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 7:20pm
You can just feel the thrill of your emotions just jump out of this update. Judy, this is so terrific for you. You sound so absolutely different. I think everyone totally notices that you are completely smitten by this guy. No WAY you can hide that. LOL. And you deserve it so! I am so thrilled and didn't I tell you that he was probably just deleting his mail? It's so good that you have a DS at the right age. My oldest DD is just as great and supportive. She just wants me to find my happiness. I am sure DS is at that age where he just wants you to find yours too. I know that M's two girls also are wanting the same for him, so it just makes life much easier when the kids understand that Mom's and Dads also have a life beyond being Mommy and Maddy. Huge hugs to you! Here is wishing you long wonderful feelings of butterflies and light headedness. :)
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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 9:49pm

running the 3000 miles


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