Date Report

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Date Report
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Sun, 06-17-2007 - 8:18pm

Well, I had a good weekend. Saw all three current candidates. And reshuffled the deck so to speak.

Saturday morning - I got up at 6AM so I could do my bike ride before breakfast with Golfer. This time we were not as nervous. We chatted for an hour and then I had to go. He tried to kiss me but I dodged - I mean - this is just breakfast and it is broad daylight in a shopping strip. And I am not feeling the chemistry. I am not going to nix him - because I think lunch and breakfast and the daytime really do not allow for a chance for that to develop. I feel that we would be ready for something more adult - like music and a glass of wine. A real date and not just a meeting.

Saturday night - my friends call and get me out of bed to go to the bars. This is a hard core drinking type of place with a lot of bars - very fun and wild. I don't drink because my friend is actually interviewing drunk people for a radio show on DUIs and we are both dressed hot so the guys will talk to us. She talks to the DUI police unit too - and man they are a bunch of hotties. So we leave at a respectable time. I would have partied some but I have a 3 hour ride on Sunday morning. My coach rules!

Sunday - get up a little later than I wanted and have a beautiful ride along the beach coast. Get a text message - think it is from DS. Stop at the end and look - and it is a text message from lifeguard!! He is saying he will do a race with me in October if I do one with him next April. So I just message back that I am on the beach (I know he is working). He asks if I came to see him and I say I just rode my bike. He says he is at XX street and I say that is where I am! So he says come and visit and I do. Thank goodness I still had on some of the eye make up from the night before! I looked okay for having ridden that many miles. And we chat and flirt. He gets me water and puts me in the shade. And he wants me to do this big race with him next April. You have to sign up now or it will close.

I am not sure what to do or think about any of that. I mean, we haven't been on a second date. But maybe he just wants a training buddy. And never mind that is a huge long race that would take me 12 hours at least to finish.

Okay - so he asks if I can stay and I say no I have to go and see my parents for Father's Day and then I wish him a happy Father's Day. He shows me his usual stand and says I have to come and visit him next time.

Then on the way home I call the SwimCoach. I must admit I have no expectations. He is cute and close by and stuff. But I think I am doing it just to check him off the list.

We actually chatted a lot this time - 45 minutes the whole way home. And yikes - I have to scramble to get ready to meet him on the way to see my parents. I just put on simple clothes - khaki capris and a brown polo top and sandals. Did the makeup quick and put the hair up - no tizzy this time.

I am texting the story about the lifeguard to my friend while waiting for him in Starbucks. And wow - he is cute and I can tell by his expression he is totally surprised in a good way when he sees me. He is tall and Irish - comes from a family of 8. And he is a fifth grade teacher - my son just finished fifth grade so we have a lot to talk about. He coaches swimming and wants to learn to bike. On and on. We went over our time to talk - because he is supposed to go to meet his mom, too. We say goodbye and he says he will call tomorrow.

He got his gf pregnant when they were in high school - it was their very first time - but they made the decision to keep the baby and have been good friends and parents ever since. His daughter (and only child) is now in college. He was married 8 years ago for 3 years but it didn't work out mostly because of his daughter - his wife wasn't really ready for a teenager and didn't like being second to her.

So I have no idea what to do with all of this except keep on going and wait and see. The golfer who was the best before is now at the bottom of the list based on just how we hit it off:

Swimcoach
Lifeguard
Golfer

That is the current order.

I guess only time will tell.




Edited 6/17/2007 8:20 pm ET by cl-west1745
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In reply to: cl_west1745
Mon, 06-18-2007 - 9:37am

I always get so excited when I read your date updates. They sound so fun!

Did you and lifeguard not have another date scheduled since the last one? Has he not asked or what is the deal on that? I think it's cool that he wants a race partner, but are you not looking for something more then just a training partner? I would think you have enough friends to do that. Right? It's great that he shows interest, but is it enough?

Where is the chemistry lacking in Golfer? Anything he said that put you off?

Swim coach sounds like a cutie. AND IRISH! LOVE IT!

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In reply to: cl_west1745
Mon, 06-18-2007 - 11:11am

Hi Cat,

Okay - I just signed up for the race! Next April. I did it for a lot of other reasons than Lifeguard doing it - that is sort of a coincidence. And the major thing that he did was to make me aware it was still open - usually they close right away and a few things have clicked to make me say I am ready including what my current coach is doing with me and his other athletes - I had a long talk with him.

I have to be careful to keep my expectations and time spent with Lifeguard in order. Remember the ordeal I had where I had a huge crush on my old coach because we spent every day together? I learned a huge lesson and am not going there again! (He still always asks my friend about me and doesn't have that girlfriend anymore but whatever!) If Lifeguard wants to train sometimes that is okay. He will be one more friendly face that I know at the race. I am not going to spend a lot of time with him or become a FWB in the hopes he would want more.

With regards to the Golfer - he has almost girly expressions sometimes and tends to agree with me too much. I am not sure if that could be nerves. Also, our conversation has been very superficial and mostly about his friend's divorce. I feel as if I would be mere arm candy. But that is only after 2 dates that are more like first meetings. I would give him one more chance - with a night out. But keep in mind we have not made any plans and he has not called. And if he doesn't that is just fine with me.

Lifeguard and I haven't made any plans yet. Yesterday he said - I will call you. So I really have to watch and see what he wants to do - is it a date? Or just a swim or ride? Right now we are having a very fun and fiery text message exchange about who will win the races! You see, he is very talented but never trains. And I am the opposite - I have one of the best coaches and put in hours and hours.

This morning in the pool I was so happy - I swam my whole workout and very hard and I know I am ready for the big race next year! Plus I met some girls in my neighborhood who are just starting and they were there swimming. And we all chatted and we can swim together.

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Registered: 09-26-2005
In reply to: cl_west1745
Mon, 06-18-2007 - 11:36am

Interesting update, I'm sure you will sort it all out. Mr Lifeguard may turn out to be a friend, you never know.

When I read the list, the theme to the game: "Mystery Date" poped in my head, now
I can't get it out of my head. :-)

Mystery Date, open the door......

The T Girl
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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: cl_west1745
Mon, 06-18-2007 - 11:46am

Thanks, Taina - oh and I live your new pic!! No wonder you are a model!!

I am trying to slow down the whole process and not pick one too fast - let him come to me and see what he is really like.

Signing up for the race has really changed my perspective. It is all about me now.

The lifeguard could be a good friend. All the miles on the bike can get me the biker. The swimcoach will help and could be a friend. Any of them can turn into the big BF but they have to earn it and show that they are truly interested and worthy.

I guess I have finally learned not to be too easy or eager!

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Registered: 11-03-2003
In reply to: cl_west1745
Mon, 06-18-2007 - 11:48am

It sounds like Golfer might be shy, or intimidated.

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Registered: 09-26-2005
In reply to: cl_west1745
Mon, 06-18-2007 - 12:21pm

Awww Shucks Miss Judy, you're making me blush :-)

Just like I'm becoming the expert interviewer(been on a lot), you're becoming
skilled in the weeding out of men. As you get older and know thyself better
that's the good outcome.

btw, my current job just hired me today as a consultant for the summer. I also have some cataloge work comming up too, smocks and mumu's, but hey it pays the bills. I'm just grateful when I do that type of work and most of my stuff, you can't recognize me.

Still can't get the theme to Mystery Date out of my head, though.

The T Girl