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Date with Tall Guy
| Mon, 04-07-2008 - 11:52am |
Freaking out a little.... i'm totally afraid of commitment... i don't know...
Now i have all these freak out thoughts... like is Tall Guy another user and abuser... but i had a fantastic time sunday.

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Personally, I say ENJOY!!!
Loony, you don't have to be perfect - you just need to find the one who is perfect for you and vice versa. It sounds like you two had a good time and it is great that he was receptive to your kids.
The only thing I would do different is to keep the date shorter and not have sex until I was sure I wanted to be exclusive with him and vice versa. I know you are different - that you are more casual and never like to think about tomorrow and you probably had fun and got swept up in the moment. I think we have probably all done that at some point. But dating today is different. You would not move and go to a new job and then hope they pay? No - you interviewed a bit, waited for a good offer and then when you were sure you got the job you moved. I think that this is something to keep in mind for the next time. Not that I want to lecture or judge - and this could still be okay - but if you said this:
"like is Tall Guy another user and abuser... " then you might want to see what they are about over time - that way you know they are interested in you as a person and want to have a relationship and that it is not about both of you getting clouded with just good sex.
Sorry - I rambled on too long - but I do care. And so I wanted to speak from my heart because I want you to find someone great. My fingers are crossed that it is this one!
Keep us posted!
You're right ... sex on the first date is not the greatest idea... but i would have been thinking about the abuse thing in either case... i don't think i've had to face the "relationship" fear because i've never really dated a keeper yet... Tall Guy has been so sweet to me and says the sweetest things... I still am not sure if i'm ready for a serious relationship and that's why i didn't wait as far as the sex went...
Thanks for the encouragement, moon... i always start to freak out when i meet a good one.... i guess, because i'm afraid that i'm being fooled... and atleast with the bad one, i know what i'm getting into.. ya know, the guy is being honest about being a jerk... Everything about TG is sweet and i haven't seen red flags... and i think, did i miss something or is he genuine... I'm a nut. there's no doubt about that....
I had another great day at work.... I'm so thankful for my new job. Today, i was asked to attend a brain storm session for a commercial.. and everyone really respected my opinion... how cool is that!
Loonybunny
Loony,
I'm so glad to hear you had a great day at work.
That is very cool about the commercial! Your creative talents are being put to good use.
Okay - keep us posted - it is good that he is still calling!!
wow, I love hearing your stories. I think you are so wonderful happy spirit. I should admit that when I think of a mom of 5 kids such a fun energetic person doesnt come to my mind. You have changed that and I feel that it is juts the personality that people get boring or act boring after having kids and family ..it is not coz of the family itself.
Keep us updated..
>>So was the tall guy married before? any kids?<<
No and no.... he said he was engaged to be married once at age 19. He is the second of a family of 4. He has an older brother and two younger sisters. Finally, i'm not dating the baby of the family.... Although, he admitted to being sort of the black sheep (i've dated those before).... His father died two years ago... he's very close to his mother. He said he's already told her about me... and he's irish catholic...
His goals are to run his own plumbing business (my ex was a plumber too btw) ... and be a baseball coach or softball coach for little league...
He called me today, btw, he said, "just to say hi"..... i'm keeping my eyes open ... i'm guessing time will tell anyones' true colors.
Loonybunny
Looney--I have had a problem with sex on the first date too--not always but often enough for my friends to ask if I had breakfast with a guy after a first date!
April
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