Date tomorrow night! Older man...

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Registered: 09-06-2006
Date tomorrow night! Older man...
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Thu, 08-02-2007 - 9:34am

ACK! I'm going to dinner tomorrow night with a guy I met on an airplane a year ago. I was in a relationship at the time, but he gave me his number and I've talked to him about a dozen times over the past year and have seen him maybe a handful of times for coffee or lunch. So now I'm single again and we're going on our first "real" date on Friday night. He seems like a great guy BUT he's about 12 years older than me (almost 50!). I know that's not really a lot in the big scheme of things, but I'm used to guys my age or even a little younger and for whatever reason, I'm having a hard time getting past the age thing. He has a whole head of gray hair, but is good looking and in great shape. Very successful, grounded and mature from what I can tell so far(this would not be a bad thing as last BF was extremely immature). He was married for 20 years and has 2 older kids. One in college and the other just graduated from HS.

Not only that, but this is my first date after my break-up and those are always a little awkward. My mind's not really in the game yet and I'm not sure I'm quite ready to date again, but have to get back in the saddle again at some point, right? UGH! I'm nervous!

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 11:26am

I love all the great things you say about an older guy and I totally agree. Good feedback Judy..

Priscilla

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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 3:05pm

It's a given fact that men in general are visually oriented so looks are important, at least for wanting to meet with the woman. USUALLY youth = good looks. This of course are all broad generalizations but that's what we are dealing with usually.

I have dated women with kids that are 6 and older. I have no problem with that except that it is more challenging getting time with them USUALLY since they require a babysitter. But then again I have weekly visitation with my teens and they come first so I need to schedule around my time with them to date.

BTW I just started seeing this 60 yr old woman (6 yrs older than me) who is a grandmother who looks and acts great. This is after seeing a woman who just turned 40 with a 5 yr old son. Both are hot.

Mark

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