Date update!

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Registered: 03-10-2008
Date update!
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Thu, 07-17-2008 - 3:29pm

Well Tuesday's date went great. I did go to the spa and get a nice massage, mani, pedi, the works! It was very nice and very relaxing though I was not thrilled with the lady touching my back fat! hahaha.


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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: cutefont
Thu, 07-17-2008 - 3:54pm

Woohoo- that's a great date update!


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Registered: 09-11-2007
In reply to: cutefont
Thu, 07-17-2008 - 4:04pm

T, I am SOOO jealous of your spa day, but you totally deserved it!

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Registered: 09-26-2005
In reply to: cutefont
Thu, 07-17-2008 - 5:28pm

He sounds like a nice guy. His weight may not be an issue for him, as it isn't for me.

The T Girl
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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: cutefont
Thu, 07-17-2008 - 6:36pm

"There is no easy answer here, I know that if a guy were dating me with the hope that


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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: cutefont
Thu, 07-17-2008 - 6:46pm

As ive said b4, this is SO hard. I too feel so hypocritical b/c I could lose 50#, but I dont want to date someone who isnt a pretty good shape ... well, not that I dont WANT to ... Im just not attracted to someone overweight. YET ... I think men should be attracted to ME ;)


I say give it a couple more dates & then if the chemistry isnt there, its just not there. I feel for the guy, its too bad. But he DOES deserve someone who appreciates him physically as well.


(btw, did HE send you to teh spa day?)

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: cutefont
Thu, 07-17-2008 - 7:15pm

Hey Cutefont - glad to hear you had a spa day and another nice date. This guy sounds very nice indeed. And congrats for the good food choices and the 4 pounds lost - with your kids and work schedule that must not come easy for you.

I think what Taina says is true - that he could be happy the way he is.

I don't know what else to say - I think chemistry can come in time - but I also think if there is something that really turns you off it probably won't show up.

Maybe give it a day to think about and see how you feel tomorrow? He sounds like such a nice guy and that he appreciate you.

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Registered: 12-06-1998
In reply to: cutefont
Thu, 07-17-2008 - 8:18pm
Telissa well done on the weight loss.
I really don't know what to say- it stinks doesn't it, but you can't MAKE yourself fancy someone who you do not find physically attractive. I'm in a similar position, I met a nice guy last week he's easy to talk to & makes me laugh BUT he is overweight & short. He has nice eyes though .......

 



Tracy

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Registered: 03-19-2008
In reply to: cutefont
Thu, 07-17-2008 - 9:19pm

I think once the emotional connection is there he could have 3 heads and you will still love him. My last bf (not RG, before him) was not good looking at all. But we had that emotional connection that made the physical attraction so great. So continue to enjoy his company. Relax and see where things go.

BTW, why did you give up dairy?

Laurie

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Registered: 03-10-2008
In reply to: cutefont
Thu, 07-17-2008 - 9:32pm

Its not that I want him to change. I would never expect anyone to change if they are not wanting to change. The thing is perhaps he is happy with his weight. I do not know.

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Registered: 03-10-2008
In reply to: cutefont
Thu, 07-17-2008 - 9:34pm

After having problems for over a year they finally decided I was lactose intolerant and sure enough since no more dairy.. no more stomach pains and rushed trips to the bathroom!

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