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| Sun, 05-28-2006 - 4:07am |
I have a question for all of you. I had been out of the dating game for quite some time, due to the fact that my daughter is my life, but have realized that i want someone else to share that with along with my daughter. For the past month i have been dating a really awesome guy. I have talked to him about where he thinks he and i are going and he says that he doesnt know right now and just wants to go with the flow. I am not dating anyone else right now and neither is he, he says he doesnt want to. My question is how long is to long for dating before you consider being more serious??

I think it's a different time for every person. The only two people that can really judge this is you and him.
Consider what both of your needs and wants are in a realtionship...are you able to talk with him honestly and openly. Do you feel like it has potential to go to the next level.
There is nothing wrong with going slow if you don't. Some of the most important things in a realtionsip are communication, trust, and comfort. And if this realtionship is not meeting enough of your needs for you or for him, don't feel like you are stuck in it. If you are happy, bask in it and I hope it only continues to flourish. ;)
good luck and welcome!
--snow
You've been dating a month, so really not long, right?
Thanks for the advice. I have been friends with him for about nine months now. So I guess I thoght it would move a little quicker. But my friends are telling me to just go with flow right now too. So I think that is what I'm going to do for right now. I'll keep you posted.
hollie
lisa j romesburg
Have you been friends with benefits for the last 9 months? If so, I'd say he's happy with that arrangement and would continue to be your friend indefinitely.
You have to decide if this relationship is what you want. You will not convince him to give you something that he's not feeling. If you like things the way they are, then stay. If you don't, then leave and don't look back.
Don't worry about your single mom status. You can find plenty of men who want a relationship with you and not just some casual thing.