Dating and money?

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Registered: 05-11-2003
Dating and money?
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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 10:06pm

Hello everyone,

I wanted to get a few opinions on the subject of money that I'm curious about. One of my closest girlfriends is also a single mother and we were talking. She mentioned that she has been seeing a guy for 2 months and today she asked him for money. I believe it was less than $80 or so to get her hair done. First off let me explain that she is not a gold digger and that she has 3 children and works really hard to support them.

I have always been an independent person and have too much pride to ask a man for money unless we are married or living together. If I need money I would rather pawn something than ask someone for help. My friend explained to me that if a man likes you and you are in an intimate relationship than he should be able to give you money if he has it. My boyfriend of 3 months also told me that if I ever needed / wanted money to come to him. I find it hard to do unless it is life or death. But to get my hair done?? No way.

I know everyone will have different thoughts but I'm also curious if this mentality is a cultural, background and/or generation difference?

I am 28 and come from a family with two parents in a middle class home. I'm educated and work in a corporate environment. My dear friend is 38 and grew up in a single family home that struggled to get by in a poorer area. She works in a blue collar environment. Her mother taught her that a man should feel privileged to be with you. My mother taught me that a man and woman are privileged to have found each other. Show him you "want" him but that I don't "need" him. (financially)

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Registered: 12-06-1998
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 8:44am
I would never, ever, EVER do that!!!!! I would not even ask someone I was in a serious relationship for money to get my hair cut, let alone someone I'd been with for 2 months.
Fine if he OFFERS to pay for dinner or movies, or even a baby sitter, but for other normal living expenses, no way.

 



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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 06-13-2008 - 3:28pm

I believe money is a more emotionally laden issue than sex between two people.

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