Dating, confused, and just need to vent

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2008
Dating, confused, and just need to vent
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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 11:53am

Goood morning to all.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-11-2007
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 1:16pm

Hi Sara, and WELCOME!!!


I hope you find that we don't judge people.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 1:39pm

Hi Sara,

Welcome!! I hope you don't think we judge anyone - we usually offer as much support as we can and give opinions on what we would do or share experiences - those are valuable to all of us.

I think you are on the right track to find someone right for you - you have your own values and are dating plenty of men to find the one that clicks and wants to pursue you. It is not like you are getting intimate first and then hoping for something or getting stuck on one who doesn't like you.

Perhaps the next time you are dating you can share your story more in depth or remember the most recent and we can help you more?

No one ever said dating is easy - it takes time to meet the right person.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2008
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 1:53pm

Thank you so much for that warm invite, I think I have finally found the right board for me.


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 2:59pm

Welcome Sara.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2008
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 7:48pm

Hi, no I do not have rules about kissing and hugging..LOL.. and that stuff.


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2002
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 8:18pm

seems there are a lot of men who ghost or disappear... for who knows what reasons..


my opinion is to keep a positive attitude about dating.. each part or phase of dating has it's ups and downs... i try

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 8:28pm

I love what you said, "Pain is evidence of being alive."

I think I posted this before but let me repeat myself (being the old guy on the block whose memory is failing) that I use to say that how much I laugh out loud is an indicator of my spiritual health now I say it is how deeply I feel (whether pain or joy) is that indicator.

I say (of course I need to listen to myself) that if we come from the heart, are true to ourselves, that we are compassionate then we can do no "wrong." It is the OTHER person's stuff that would create a "wrongness." But really it is not really wrong but a mismatch or a misunderstanding.

Mark





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2008
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 8:40pm

Thank you for that.. you are right.. sometimes I forget that I need to feel alive.


And thank you to everyone so far, what positive things.



iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2002
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 9:10pm

But really it is not really wrong but a mismatch or a misunderstanding.


I totally agree with this Mark!!!!


And i totally agree it's about being true to yourself.. not what other people expect.. not what your date expects... true to yourself!!! And it's okay to make a mistake or two, too.


Someone at the karaoke contest sang "I Hope You Dance" by Leanne Womack. I love that song.. and i hope i dance and i hope everyone here on this board dances, too. "loving might be a mistake but it's worth making"... and i hope i make it over and over again... lol...


(and i'm so happy my foot is better and i can dance... again... appreciating the little things).


Loonybunny

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2008
Sat, 05-17-2008 - 10:34pm

I can give you a shoulder. I understand what you are going through. I am too. There is always just one thing holding men back. But I have met one that I really like and if theres an inkling of hope of a future with him then I will hold on to it. I am in no hurry to surge forward in the relationship anyhow.

Also you are YOUNG! Enjoy your daughter and freedom and the man without commitment issues WILL come along. Hang in there.

Laurie

anonymous

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