Dating Disappointment
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Dating Disappointment
| Mon, 02-11-2008 - 10:18am |
I left my ex back in Sept after finding out he had a 21 year old Russian girlfriend ("hes 43 and hes old and she makes him feel young and good and they are in love and i need to get over it"...yes verbatim). So I moved our 23 month old daughter out and am starting over. Trying to anyway. (Did I mention she moved in 48 hours after

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As for the new guy, It sounds like you guys are in two different places. You are in a place right now I think where you need to feel like a woman again. Your daughter is young and you have suffered a betrayal and you deserve to feel beautiful and loved and appreciated. It doesnt sound like this new guy is feeling motivated enough to give you even a fraction of that but the good news is - some guys are definately ready and willing. It doesnt take much to make a woman feel special and desired and most of the guys I know are well aware of what that entails even on a budget. I would just cut your losses with this new guy and wait for something better to come along.
You are right to be disappointed and I think you will find better things coming your way. I know one of the things that really caught me about my current bf is that on our first real date he really went to a lot of trouble and we had an amazing dinner, walk, coffee, time to snuggle. HIs attention was all on me and I wasnt used to that. It made me reconnect with a part of myself that I had lost track of in raising my son and only dating commitment phobic types.
Dont waste time or energy on a guy who cant in his actions validate how wonderful and valuable you know you are already!!
Thanks,
Now comes the daunting task of breaking off something that doesnt really exist to begin with.
ITA with citylife - you are in different places.
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
Ok, I feel ashamed, because I had to laugh at your dating story! Which is a compliment to you for writing it so well. Anywhoooo, what a LOSER!!!
You poor dear! I'll tell you my story one day and you'll know you aren't the only one that had a mistress move right in. LOL. How old are you? Or how old was this guy you knew?
As far as the dating goes: I dated a guy for several months and never had a dinner date. YUP, they do exist. He had a phobia of eating in restaurants. YES! I know! Needless to say, we are no longer dating.
Isnt it terrible that in 2008 men are still clueless and that they will most likely remain so till the end of time. I read something how their temporal lobes dont "mature" until they are in there late 20s at least. I must be a damn beacon foor the ones over their late 20s with undeveloped brains...Cant say Im glad that im not the only one out there but I guess a bit more at ease knowing im not the only one that has gone and is going through this crap.
To answer some questions:
Me - 35
Ex - 43
Ex's current *****(insert name calling here) - 21
Potential new guy that is old friend - 43
Me - Age most likely to start dating 83....
Me - number of cats until dating starts again 83....
ho-hum...LOL
M
I agree with citylife that it does seem like you two are in two different places.
This does not make him "bad."
LOL....M. I love your sense of humor! ~ And humor is Oh So needed when dating, isn't it??
This guy who you had the date with. I am sorry but I too had to laugh a little bit! "College Style" dinner..,lol!
No fear M you are not alone. I'm at the point of proclaiming myself the "dog lady". I've had some dates since divorced (back in 2002?) and was seeing someone this past summer but I ended that. I'm just living my life and going about my business being a mom and secretary.
Do I talk to my dogs? YES I DO! Am I ashamed of it...NO! They listen. Now, my daughter on the otherhand thinks I'm kind of nuts sometimes and laughs at me, but I don't care. :)
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