dating frenzy...ends on a good note!
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| Mon, 04-16-2007 - 1:33pm |
haven't been on here in a long time but i've been lurking and trying to keep up-to-date on everyone's happenings. :) Nice to be back!
so last week the kids were at the ex's for the entire week and i thought it was time to take up offers for dates and weed out some potential suitors....so i went on 5 dates. i was mighty busy! they were all nice but no luck UNTIL the last date. and by no luck prior to the last date I mean, one guy asked to "rub my stomach" on the way to the car after dishing out sexually inapporpriate comments the ENTIRE date...COOKOO!
Mr. S, the final date of last week...I suggested we go out, he said great how about dinner on Thurdsday. Well, it didn't start out so great when he calls at 6:30 at night while looking up places to go while on the phone. I hate that. AND, instead of dinner we met for drinks which kinda sucked because I hadn't eaten very much anyway.
So we meet up for drinks and start talking about graphic design software which happily is a great ice breaker because it takes the pressure off, it's something in common that has nothing to do with either personal lives...I personally thought that was a stroke of genius on his part. So the conversation continues and he and I chat about our kids (he has an 18 year old daughter that lives with him, he's 36). We talked about having kids young blah blah blah. AND THEN...we got on a topic of positive thinking and NLP and for the rest of the night at the bar we discussed the following topics: How you think, Cause and Effect, Religion, God, evolution, creation and Greek philosophy. It was awesome. The best part was that when I get into these conversations I tend to get a little to passionate which usually translates for aggressiveness but I surprisingly did not get like that because he was challenging me appropriately and had more knowledge than me on some of the topics and there is nothing I dig more than a smart man.
In any event, we leave the bar and go to get something to eat at 11:30 which leaves only Del Taco open in our city. We eat and discuss EX's and past relationships but not in that complaining way, more like the "so that's what happened and this is what i learned" type of way. So we go outside and I notice that someone has bashed in my back bumper on the passenger side......ARGH!....so I'm kinda freakin out and he trys to assure me it's not so bad (BTW, it is REALLY bad) he puts the arm around me...rubs my arm and back...gives the full hug....NICE! So here is the really cute part. I finally stop staring at my bumper and he says "let me walk you to your car." P.S. we're at my car. So he turns the corner with me...lol...and he goes in for the kiss! Perfectly natural, no weirdness about it, perfect lip kiss and then after the kiss he stops....AND GOES IN FOR ANOTHER ONE! wooohooo! He said he had a great time, I concured and told him to give me a call.
So here is my dilemma....WHEN do they call back? Is it a bad sign if he hasn't called back already? I am a dating retard.
~ Caryn

Wow - 5 in one weekend - you are a trooper. The guy who rubbed your stomach is surely a creep.
This one sounds fun! I think he will call.
There really is no dilemma - if they like you and want to see you more they call and if they don't they don't - there is nothing you can do about that - and really - if they don't call it is a blessing because you do want someone who is into you and calls and wants to be with you. And if they don't you can't fix/change that.
I always try to keep my feelings in check and remember that time is an excellent test of any relationship. It is easy for them to get caught up in the moment and make promises with good intentions. But it is another for them to be motivated to want you in their life.
Good luck! Keep us posted!
The last date sounds great, even if it started out on a rocky note. I think they call depending on them. I don't agree that all men wait a certian amount of time before calling.
I think you should just keep busy, and try not to think too much about when and if he'll call. he either will or he won't, and you thinking about it won't make it happen any faster, but it will do nicely to make you nuts.
When he does call, be pleasant but not too eager and agree on a date only if you don't already have other plans. Don't ditch your other plans to be with him, if you have them, but suggest another time that works better for you.
I like the supportive, trying to cheer you up thing when your car got bashed- did you get an estimate, are you getting it fixed? I came out to the parking lot very late one night and found my rear taillight completely bashed in- it was such a maddening experience because there's absolutely no way of knowing who did it, and obviously I had to pay to have it replaced. Luckily, my brother's handy, so there was no mechanic bill, I just had to buy the fixture, but it was incredibly annoying.
Good luck with him, and with your car, and keep us posted!
Moody, not a sit by the phone kind of girl
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You're all right...he'll call when he calls. Yesterday though my friends talked me into sending him an email.....completely not my thing to pursue. He hasn't read it yet and then I went into full blown girl mode with my best friend trying to figure out if I wrote the worst email in the world. Turns out, pretty good email according to my brother. In any event, today I am determined to keep busy. I just wish I didn't like him!
Boys make me crazy, I am boy-crrazy!