Dating in the new Millenium
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| Sat, 11-13-2004 - 12:57pm |
Writing a post because I am pretty frustrated with the current status of my social dating life...
I spent part of my morning browsing through some of the free online dating sites and looking at the Pics of eligible men out there. I am absolutely amazed at the very high and large numbers of the male population that are using these boards in order to meet women. Its like it makes you wonder if anybody goes about "dating" the old fashioned way anymore (?) No wonder I am having a hard time meeting anyone when I go out in public (LOL)
I've been flying solo as a single Mom for 6 years now and I have to say, after not having been out on a date for that many years, "I just don't like doing this single thing anymore". I am also finding that with each passing year, it gets harder and harder to meet the right kind of guy/soul mate. Even this AM as I was browsing Pics (I looked at over hundreds to be sure), I only saw 1 to 2 pics & profiles that trully "wowed me" and as luck would have it, these guys were from a completely different state and probably too young.
I've always been very picky about what qualities I'm searching for in an ideal mate and I haven't run across Mr. Right as of yet. And yes I have personally tryed the online approach for a 2 month period but had some pretty negative experiences as a result (whole other story).
I'm totally baffled by this new dating philosophy/approach.
Where have all the great guys gone ?
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Does anybody have any suggestions on how one can meet genuine & sincere guys without having to use a computer to do it ? :< LM

I signed up for a hike through a singles group. I'm bummed, it got postponted until MARCH!!
I've signed up to do a charity fundraising walk this Saturday.
I've started hanging out at Home Depot ... A LOT and plan on taking some free clinics at Home Depot and Lowe's.
Last thing, I've noticed that the Subway sandwich shop by my house is packed with guys with jobs during the week around lunch time. I work at home M, W, and F. I plan on eating my lunch there every Friday until it becomes my routine. Don't know if I'll meet anyone, but who knows. If I did, it would be a man with a job who lives close to my town.
I really don't know if anything will come out of all of this....but, I know nothing will happen if I do nothing.
My major hobby and passion is competing in triathlons. I swim, bike and run with various clubs and local athletes. I compete in local running races, triathlons and swimming events. I have met a lot of nice people this way.
If you are not so athletically inclined there are always 5k fun walks and runs.
I also go to a gym here and have taken various classes. Since I live in a nice suburb, most of the people here are married.
I keep my eyes open at home depot and also at Starbucks. Like fivesense, I work 5-7 days a week in my home office. But that still brings in copy machine mechanics, UPS drivers and home improvement type people.
I have been on eharmony.com and match.com but gave those up - just got tired of the process - although I was very active at dating for over a year and got to meet a lot of people.
Alas, I am not dating anyone right now. But my wardrobe is hot and my eyes are open. I have really worked on my appearance and feel I have a good attitude and a lot to offer.
I have had interest - the guy at the auto shop really likes me. And my copy machine tech likes me. But I don't like them - no chemistry.
I do have a crush on my coach but I don't think he really wants a relationship. There is chemistry. But there is also nothing I can do if he doesn't lead.
I hope these ideas help. I do agree that the dating scene is more of a challenge as we get older. But there are plenty of singles out there. You just have to look nice and get out there!! And you have to understand the pitfalls - don't fall into the hole of becoming a booty call girl!!