Dating Question: Financially Stable?

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Dating Question: Financially Stable?
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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 2:11pm

Okay, it seems that lately I've been corresponding and meeting men who are either having financial difficulties and/or extreme cases??

I don't like to question men as if they are going on a job interview, but any suggestions on how I can find out where a person stands financially without blatantly asking him??

It's so unfair and I hate to sound shallow. It seems you have to wait just to find someone you are remotely interested in and then you do, and then find out they have no money to take you out on dates!

I'm an African-American, and I wonder if other races have this issue much.

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Mon, 08-29-2005 - 12:00pm

I agree with Judy about the roommate thing. It's one thing to find a roommate or live in a boarding type house to try and save money and keep expenses low, it's another to just have the party house for all the buddies to hang out at.

When my parents divorced I was 15. My dad moved into a rooming house and kept his expenses low. He was in University and only working part time so that's all he could afford. Years later he still lives in a rooming house because he likes that his expenses are low and he can travel with the surplus. He's a very wise man with money, and I've learned a lot from him.

My mother on the other hand is a walking money disaster LOL! She is the type that lives above her means, makes poor financial decisions and has no money to fall back on if she were to lose her job.

I take after my dad.

Alison

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Mon, 08-29-2005 - 7:13pm
Thank you West I would like to stick around. This is good for me because I see a woman view on things. I have good ideas and views but I am not the smartest apple from the tree.
well I am 45 yrs. old not a 20 something party animal. {I am also a terriable speller}. So if i had a roomate it would be to save money. I am happy to save a little and live a quiet lifestyle. I guess just like everyone else I wish I had a little more.
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Tue, 08-30-2005 - 5:13am
I actually have a roommate right now for that exact reason. She is a friend of my family's who is also a single mom, and while we *could* each afford to pay the resnt here ourselves, it's much better that that extra money can go towards debts for now.
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 9:11am
That is a good situation. Do you help each other with babysitting? Do the kids get along?
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Tue, 08-30-2005 - 4:08pm

"That is a good situation. Do you help each other with babysitting? Do the kids get along?"

Yes, they do, and we help each other out with babysitting for short periods of time here and there. Her DD is nine and she will wake my DD (5) up in the morning to play and will make her breakfast so us moms can sleep in. She has her dd two days a week and I have mine five, so they aren't around each other *too* much.

My roommate is getting married next year, and then she'll be moving out and I'll be staying here, but for now we help each other out alot and save alot on rent.

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