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| Fri, 04-14-2006 - 12:58pm |
Okay ladies, I have plunged back into the dating world. And wanted to give you the scoop.
- Cyclist - a friend called (she is married) and she met a nice tall cyclist in a park where she rides and he was talking to her and indicated he is single and looking. So I joined her on her ride today. It was great to get out of the house and the park where we rode is on the beach so there is a lovely view all around. He was there and rode with us. He is a nice person and friendly but has stained teeth and I don't think I could get past that. I did make sure I brought up the fact that I am a single mom and he seemed receptive. So that was good practice for me.
- Mr.NO-EMAIL - there is a cute lawyer on match.com who totally overrode my request to get a little background info via email. He said he won't do an email relationship and we should meet in person right away. Now, I was not asking for an email relationship or any kind of relationship for that matter - just a few introductory questions in my very first email reply to his so I can see if there is a dialog and get a feel for his intentions and attitude - like how long have you lived here and where are you from type of thing. I did state that I like to exchange a few emails before I can feel comfortable and his reply was that if we meet in a very public place I will feel fine. So he goes in the trash. Anyone who can't at least send back a few short emails and just wants to meet in person is not my cup of tea. I want someone who can be a little accomodating.
- MRYOUARETOOGOOD - I winked at a nice sounding guy and he sent back this note that says I am too tall and beautiful but perhaps he just slips under the wire of my criteria - this to me feels like he is waffling and not that confident of himself and that just doesn't make me want to email him back. So I don't think I will.
So that is the scoop. I hope you all have a Happy Easter weekend - whatever you are doing. We have so many nice new people now and our board is nothing but a joy. You all helped me a lot this week with my coach saga (who by the way was totally dumbfounded about my statement - I heard this via my old babysitter who is dating his brother).
I will be riding my bike a lot this weekend as well as spending time with DS and my family.
CHEERS!

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I was wondering how things went with the coach. I saw some new gum on a commercial that is supposed to whiten your teeth! Do you think that would improve his smile any? ;-)
Have a good weekend!
Stephanie
Judy,
I totally know what you mean about stained teeth! UGH!
Well, you have been busy!
If you know you can't get past the cyclist's teeth, then you're only being fair to him by not pursuing or encouraging a relationship, but you might have found a new riding partner, and friend, if nothing else.
The lawyer dude who won't email- bad sign! How does he know you aren't a creepy stalker who is an amatuer axe murderess? (Just kidding, but trying to make a point) I think in this day and age, men have just as much to be concerned about as women, and if they aren't willing to email a few times, and make sure you're comfortable in the very beginning of a relationship, they aren't going to care about your comfort level throughout the rest of it. That being said, I know women who are signed up for online dating sites who refuse to meet men in person. (what exactly the point in online dating is if they never want to actually meet anyone, I have no idea) If he's encountered this, that may have prompted his extreme no email rule... still too harsh, and obviously not the guy for you!
And the last guy- if he's already thinking you're too good, he's totally wrong for you. Men who have complexes like that need way too much attention- you want a man, not a baby! (Or maybe you do want a baby, but not a man who acts like one!)
I'm convinced the right guy is out there for you, and the more you get out there and weed out the wrong ones, the easier it'll be to find the right one. I've been comparing it to gardening a lot lately. You gotta pull all the stinking dandelions before you can really see the lilies (or hyacinths, or tulips, or whatever)!
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"And the last guy- if he's already thinking you're too good, he's totally wrong for you. Men who have complexes like that need way too much attention- you want a man, not a baby! (Or maybe you do want a baby, but not a man who acts like one!)"
Oh YEA!! I totally agree. These are the guys that I keep meeting and I want to know where the macho manly confident men are!
and I am still totally jazzed about you at least window shopping. I think it just takes awhile to find a good fit.
hugs to you Judy, for again, taking the risk, I am picky about bad teeth (though crooked doesn't bother me) and bad skin... both irk me as they seem so preventable...
:)
--snow
I don't mind crooked teeth - and they don't have to be Brad Pitt white - although that is nice - but they shouldn't be very stained and looking old and yukky. A regular cleaning at the dentist can keep them nice.
I just paid a LOT of money to have my teeth look their best - so I do have that to offer to be fair.
Keep trying, maybe you'll have success. I had zero success with old and am now actively seeking other alternatives. There is a web site called meetups.com, they have all kinds of groups all over the US. I signed up for a single parent group in my area. They are a large group with lots of males and females. I thought it would be a good way to get out of the house and meet people, and I can drag my dd along as being her father never takes her for very long. They sent me an email today inviting me to a picinic event next month (I can't go because the place is too far away and I don't have a car), but in the future if they hold an event that I can get to I will definately go. I will also in the future try my hand at speed dating, or what ever else comes along.
Well I hope there will someday be someone who will look beyond the congenital problem my son has, his teeth are discolored due to Hypoplashia(sp?). This with him seeing the dentist twice a year since he was 2 yrs old. We are working on his teeth placement as it interferes with his bite and could cause TMJ in his adult years.
The othodontics is required in my book, the discoloration will have to be fixed with tons of caps, very painfull and costly. His teeth aren't filled with cavities due to neglect, he has no choice what color they are. Gosh I hope he isn't turned down at every turn, because he is sweet lovable and is growing into a very respectful MAN.
Just my take on this, I hope I never come across someone so superficial in my own quest to Date.
Jer-taking offense and not proud to be a women right now.
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